Im new Here just made a account.

[RedLikeMike]

So ill be honest i havent been officially diagnosed as i havent gone to a doctor but i am in therapy at the moment. I have been suffering from depression for a while now due to not feeling i am worth much. It also doesnt help that i am a 24 year old male with no experience in relationships like a girlfriend. Being a virgin at 24 has made me very suicidal and think negative thoughts. I was thinking about taking Anti-Depressants but i am nervous cause i know about the side effects.

[worthytobeloved]

I sympathise. I'm glad you're in therapy- that's a start, and I hope the therapist is good. I couldn't cope without my antidepressants (Prozac). However, it's a lottery as to which is the right one for you, and it takes time to kick in. My first lot of antidepressants didn't help, so I was lucky to get Prozac on my second go. This website can be so helpful in getting support and advice from other sufferers. I can imagine you feel you're the only one who feels unworthy, and being a virgin at 24, but you're not. I'm now 72, and have had so much therapy and healing over the years which I'm so grateful for, but I still feel unworthy. I hope others will read your post, and help us find ways of accepting (and liking) ourselves. Good luck!

[RedLikeMike in reply to worthytobeloved]

Yea my inability to be loved has really taken a toll on my mental and i wish it would just end. I appreciate you replying much love.

[gajh]

Hello and Welcome. Have you talked to a psychiatrist about the pros and cons of taking medication? I am on meds.

[RedLikeMike in reply to gajh]

No i havent talked to a psychiatrist as i am nervous about taking meds.

[gajh in reply to RedLikeMike]

A psychiatrist would be able to help you decide if it was right for you and if the benefits outweigh the potential side effects. I can understand you being nervous. Maybe just being here with people who understand will make enough of a difference for you.

[catsrock]

I hope you can be open to taking meds. They have saved me and many others here. If you had cancer or any other disease, would you not take meds for it? Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain and meds can help get you back in balance - it's worth it. Just my two cents!

[Cheetahone]

Hi RedLikeMike, and welcome to the group.

I don’t know the kind of therapy you are in, but I really had success with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT has been found to help with depression and anxiety and work as successfully as medication (or along with medication).

It helps with catastrophic thoughts and all or nothing thinking, such as you seem to be experiencing. For example, who said that there is a deadline for virginity. And, it is so successful that it is typically a short (6 - 12 months) form of therapy.

I hope this helps you, and great success in easing your struggles.

[RedLikeMike in reply to Cheetahone]

I might give it a shot cause at this point ill try anything. Also yea i know there is no deadline for virginity but being an adult male with surface level experience in relationships in this society has taken a toll on me. Relationships and sexual things are everywhere and i just want to mean something to someone who isnt in my family or friend group.