Missing connection

[DogMom917]

Is anyone else struggling to feel connected these days?

I find that, yes, everyone is dealing with their own stuff right now, but shouldn’t we be coming together in hard times? Just seems like everyone is so focused on personal happiness that they are missing the desire to help others.

I keep trying to reach out, but am really struggling to find someone that genuinely cares or has the capacity to care for someone else.

Empathic side of me is just feeling everything, and isolation is the last thing I need.

Anyone looking for a friend?

[DogMom917]

Thank you so much! You’re right.

I do try to stay positive and help others. It can be very draining when you continually pour into other people’s cups but there is no one pouring into mine. It’s a constant struggle. I also work in a helping profession so it’s constant the pouring into others.

I’d love to talk further and see if a connection can develop! I’m looking to build a tribe, a community!

[my2bordercollies in reply to DogMom917]

I would love a friend! Especially a dog loving friend! I have a 3 yr old border collie named Huckleberry and an Australian cattle dog named Piper. Hope to hear from you soon!

[Irishmexi35]

I am

[BeagleHeart]

I can relate to your story. I cared for both my parents up till their recent passing in the last few years and have since been alienated from the only family I thought I had left by my older sibling. My life has been nothing but loss after loss, after loss for ten years running. If not for my wife I don't think I'd be here writing this. She is all that I have left and I've become so codependent that when she is no longer in my life I will have nothing and no one to live on for. Never in my life have I had to struggle with so much anxiety directly linked to the act of just being alone. I need an almost constant supply of reasoning to get through some days as everything feels pointless more than not.

I'd be happy to join any kind of group you may have going, it's really hard for me to trust anyone in person (excluding my wife), if it wasn't bad enough that my sibling and their spouse used their child, my neice, as a means to deceive the nail was truly put in the coffin when afterwards a long lost cousin crawled out from under a rock and attempted to do the exact same thing. They all knew we fostered troubled and abused children in the earlier part of our marriage and (only in hindsight can I recognize) they used that as a vector to gain trust and sympathy.

Apologies for being long winded, something about your post motivated me to speak up.

[Gramas]

I feel exactly as you do, that it’s hard to connect these days. Everyone seems to be so preoccupied with their own issues, problems, life that they don’t appear to be concerned about anyone else. I think one of the reasons may be that people are struggling just to survive these days with the ever increasing prices and all the changes that are occurring. People are also so divided now with all that is happening and I don’t see that getting any better.

I do have a caring side but it doesn’t seem to get returned. I’m the one always helping people but have no one to help me. It is a very lonely and isolating feeling.

Feel free to reach out to me anytime as I completely understand how you feel and can offer a caring friendship in return.

[DogMom917 in reply to Gramas]

Yes! I agree! I work in a helping profession and want to make sure everyone is ok, but I just am missing the person or people that will pour into me. So it’s very tiring.

It’s a hard time right now, and community is so important!

[Gramas in reply to DogMom917]

You are so right. We all have to stick together and support each other.

[Frenchies4Ever]

Loneliness has become epidemic. Technology has something to do with that. Do you remember the days when we would jump in the car and actually go visit someone? LOL I understand totally and sure many here will. Just know you really are not alone.

[DogMom917 in reply to Frenchies4Ever]

Thank you so much, you’re so right!

[Frenchies4Ever]

BTW I am a dog mom to 5 french bulldogs. They have become my 4 legged children so that helps.