Cassandra Syndrome

[Am_strong]

I’m posting here again. I went to see a psychiatrist and told my situation with my husband’s behaviors. My doctor told me what I’m experiencing is very likely so called “Cassandra Syndrome” suggesting my husband is a high functioning autistic.

Does anyone have the same experience as me?

“Many neurotypical, or “ NT,” women who are married to men with undiagnosed ASD have a common experience. They begin to realize that their partner is neurodivergent. When they try to explain to others what their life is like with an autistic partner, no one believes them.

The phenomenon has become known as Cassandra syndrome, a reference to the eponymous priestess from Greek mythology with the ability to see the future, but who was cursed by Apollo so that no one would believe her prophecies. “

[fauxartist]

I guess what the doctor should have said, was to bring your husband into a psychiatrist to be properly and officially diagnosed. We may know in our hearts stuff we suspect, but unfortunately until you get the official label slapped on....doctors are reluctant to give credence to what we suspect may be an issue.

[Am_strong]

wise reminder. Thank you for your comment

[Midori in reply to Am_strong]

I agree with Cake-Maker, it would be harder to go once your child is born, but you cannot allow him or her to be influenced by the way your husband treats you. It won't be easy, but I'm sure there are charities who can help with setting up a nursery etc.

Please see a lawyer quickly.

Cheers, Midori

[Albatrossss]

Thank you for sharing. It’s brave of you to seek help and understand your situation. While I haven’t experienced this, Cassandra Syndrome is a common challenge for those with neurodivergent partners. You’re not alone—connecting with others in similar situations can offer support and guidance. Wishing you strength!

[Am_strong in reply to Albatrossss]

Thank you so much for your support!

[Albatrossss in reply to Am_strong]

You Welcome 😊

[fauxartist]

I agree on the overuse of labels and 'issm's'.....they don't define you....or determine how you can live your life, that's anyones choice. Nor should a diagnosis be an excuse to deflect things someone doesn't want to do in life , when many of us have managed a full life even with our stuff.

But with that said.... if I know I have chronic depression, and that's why I have a set of reoccurring symptoms , I know where to start getting help....Having CPTSD....sums up a lifetime of dealing with triggers and fears and abandonment issues from a very long term abusive childhood and into my adult years. And again, by knowing this is the problem....I can know how to try and get help, and learn coping skills.

My stuff doesn't define me, or dictate how I will live my life, or mean I can't be happy sometimes, fall in love, have a good sense of humor, or be successful in business and enjoy a full life. Because all of my stuff is just part of me...and being aware of it, I can have my tool box ready for when I hit a wall.