Tips and advice??

Does anyone have any tips on how to begin healing?? I've struggled for many years to heal, and I've taken it out on others around me and lashed out on them. It wasnt always their faults. I've never healed properly from things and I've ruined so many relationships and friendships because of it

[fauxartist]

I think in the beginning of working out how to cope and understand why our lives have taken a path of a bit of chaos and misdirection...took me believing there was a better way. I needed guidance from a professional. I had to stop listening to old tapes in my head and drop all the negative programming I'd had all my young life. I had brought all that mental damage into my adult life, and knew I needed to come to understand what my depression was all about. As much as I wanted a quick fix, a magic pill, or someone to fix me....I had to learn the hard way... only I can make the choices for myself....and acceptance, patience with my process, and knowing this took a lifetime to get to this point in my life.... it's going to take some time to learn to understand, cope, and to live with this stuff too.

I would recommend reading the stories here of others who are all trying to do the same, and most importantly...we understand.

[Hidden in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you. I listen to my thoughts and make up fake scenarios in my head and believe them, then take it out on others around me. I'm thinking about therapy again

[fauxartist in reply to Hidden]

It would probably be a great idea....best wishes....

[Curry223]

I’ve too lashed out and lost family/friends over things that shouldn’t have went that far. It sucks knowing you can’t take back anything you’ve said or done. I’ve learned to forgive myself and figure ways to control my emotions around other. It’s easier said than done. Take some time for yourself & reflect on why you lash you..maybe things will start to make sense soon Good luck!

[Hidden in reply to Curry223]

It really is easier said than done. I've been trying to work on it, but sometimes I just can't control it unfortunately. I try to go back and apologize later on, and get shit on so I'm left confused and feeling shitty

[Curry223 in reply to Hidden]

Have you been diagnosed with anything? It could be bipolar or borderline personal disorder

[Hidden in reply to Curry223]

I've been diagnosed with bipolar

[Curry223 in reply to Hidden]

Okay that makes sense, are you seeing a Therpist?

[Hidden in reply to Curry223]

No. I was. But then I stopped going due to insurance

[Curry223 in reply to Hidden]

I’ll message you some free links

[Hidden in reply to Curry223]

Thank you ❤️