I know I'm running my mind in circles, by asking similar questions, but these are the issues that I have in my mind that I'd like to address. When it comes to my body language and body movements do people just simply ignore it if they see it? Does it not register in their minds? Is it a small deal or a big deal? Should I stop fussing over it and assume that it's acceptable? I move around a lot. Specifically, my head. Is that okay?
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Hi Eric,You need to process in your own way; don't worry about what we might or might not be thinking. This is an important issue for you and there is nothing wrong with that at all. If someone thinks it's annoying that is their problem.
To answer your questions now: they might register your movements, but that's it. They won't care beyond that. And it's definitely acceptable.
Because people care more about themselves than they do those around them. It's a stressful world out there are people are caught up in it. No one has the time (or interest) to care why you do what you do. People are curious by nature, so they might notice you (anyone; not you specifically), but that's it.
For example, I was walking to the train station today. I approached a set a steeps down to the train platform. At the top of the stairs, blocking the way, I noticed someone on their phone. This person also noticed me since she moved out of the way so I could get by. But that was the extent of our noticing each other. I proceeded down the steps and, if I had to guess, she probably went right back to whatever she was doing on her phone.
People like people who try to be friendly and other things, matter less. They only care you tried your effort in conversation and then most will be happy to deal with you.
So, if you struggle in conversation people will be understanding of it? How about body language? Will they just ignore my body language? If they see my head jolt, will they care or simply ignore it?
I also struggle but people love talking to someone else. It gets rid of lonely time. You are appreciated and people can be very kind to each other. Talking helps people.
It sounds like your head and body movements bother YOU. That is more important than whether they bother other people. I doubt they bother other people, but they clearly bother you. Are these movements uncontrollable, or can you stop them? I suggest you see a medical doctor to discuss them. A psychiatrist, in addition to a medical doctor may also help you.
It wouldn't be an issue if I could stop them, now, would it? It's not that big of an issue to see a doctor over. It's just an involuntary movement I have.
Please stop persecuting yourself with things which people don't notice, because they really don't. A case in point, recently i was rushing to a meeting and the sole fell off one of my shoes and i was hobbling along in a right state , and not one person noticed or took any notice.
Thanks, maybe people are that oblivious. I know one of my friends notices my head movements, but he's also hypervigilant so he looks around his environment more than usual.
You have a few points here so I’ll try to address them one by one:
1. Everyone’s mind flits here and there, it’s perfectly normal. Even the people who seem to have it all together have a million things on their mind, they are just more organised and in routine with things and the routine enables their things to go into long term memory so they maintain said routines. Due to this, when something new or out of the box happens, it doesn’t stress them out because they have already got their ‘balanced and working’ routines that will only need adjusting for a day and then they can get back to norm. It’s us unorganised ones that everything becomes difficult for cause we have no routine and that means we don’t know what we are doing or how the new thing will effect everything else. It’s not a simple ‘slot into the timetable’ for us, or single adjustment, but a ‘we need to think of everything all in one go to see if it’s even manageable’
2. Body language is only acknowledged if it is compatible or contrary to the viewers intentions. If it’s someone who cares; the question posed in their heads is ‘can they do anything about it that is purposeful?’ If not, they ignore it. In some cases, so as not to make a big issue out of things, because they can’t help anyway. I can go on and on about why they might feel that, but I’ll never end up posting this reply if I diverge too much. To other people, if it’s not beneficial or an issue to them, they won’t get involved. But also it depends on what’s happening in the viewers life. If they are busy or in pain or their mood is low, or distracted or anxious; then they might be oblivious.
Whether it’s a small or big deal is totally dependent on you and how consequential the lack of acknowledgment is. Some people need to hear words to even understand body language. Things aren’t as obvious as the sufferer tends to believe. And if it’s not harming you then it’s less likely to be so consequential. But the real question is, is it harming you?!
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