So I turn 30 years old in a year and I have nothing figured out. I've been working at the same crappy day job since Covid and I just feel stuck in my own head. I have goals that I can't achieve or that are taking a long time to accomplish. I know everyone wants to feel like they matter or what they do means something, but lately I feel its just a saying to make them feel better about themselves. I don't know...maybe I'm just afraid of change or maybe I'm just going crazy. I have a bachelors degree in liberal arts and I am still not where I want to be, what am I doing wrong?
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A lot of people are in the same boat. Unless someone is exceptional, they probably don't have it all figured out at 30.
Unfortunately, a Bachelor's degree isn't what it used to be. It's good to be educated, but things have changed the last couple of decades in terms of jobs. Sometimes it is a prerequisite or beneficial, but often if it isn't a specialization in high demand, it doesn't really map to the available jobs.
Where is it that you want to be? It is great to have goals and a direction you want to go. Getting there just might not be easy, or linear. It is better than being aimless.
If you figure it out, let me know. I turned 40 two years ago and I still don't know what I want to do with my life. I turned and looked behind myself and realised I've achieved nothing, I'm not married, I don't have kids, I was in a job I hated them and have since been sacked from and I'm in a loveless relationship with a woman who has told me she wants me to leave. So I'll be heading back home to my parents by the time I turn 42. I wish I could offer some sage like wisdom, but I would be lying to myself if I did. I know, for myself, I have a good brain, but I lack ambition and motivation and my recent ADHD diagnosis has shown that is partly to blame.
Is there maybe a career coach type person you could speak to?
Hi milesmania 121,
I’m on the same boat as you right now. I feel so lost and start getting to my head about my life and where it’s headed. I wish I could give you some advise but I don’t have any. The best I could do is wish you luck.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll do great on your road to success!🤞🤞🤞🍀🍀
You got this!!