Reason why husband dies earlier than wife?

[Mohammad-341]

My wife is a source of trouble for me .

She does nothing for parenting , the only job she has got to do outside her office is

ordering some grocery , folding cloths and making him have dinner.

other than this all her time and thought is devoted to think and help about her mother.

she spends roughly speaking 50% of all her time outside office at home .

Sex is not a priority for her.

I am just fed up.

this is the reason why husband dies earlier than wife .

[Dolphin14]

Mohammad-341

This is a very interesting thought process. Do you have research articles to back this theory?

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[Isinatra]

Here in the states, women are starting to die sooner than males. Many reasons for it, though. Stress, which causes problems in itself is at the top of list. I imagine in India, women are taking on more of what the male role is plus having to keep caretaking after work. Understanding and communication could help smooth things out. But you have to be willing and accept her role in life. A marriage counselor, perhaps?

[hypercat54]

Well I presume as you aren't working that you are doing the housework and childcare? Or do you see that as women's work regardless of her working full time?

[Mohammad-341 in reply to hypercat54]

Your presumption is wrong, i am working full time from home

[Nothing_but_books]

If I understood right, your wife has an office job,

is responsible for groceries,

does the family laundry and folds clothes,

makes dinner,

and is devoted to helping her mother.

I think you said she's also away from home a lot of non-work time.

I can see why you feel resentful, she doesn't seem to have a lot of time for you.

It looks like she's overwhelmed with responsibilities.

Have you ever asked her why she doesn't share your interest in sex?

[Mohammad-341 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

Laundry cleaning and cooking are not for her, we have maid for that. Sex obviously is no bcoz she returns from her mother home by 10pm then dinner, some tonic to kids, dental hygiene by this time it is over 11 and then school hw for half an hour. We get up at 8:30 am in morning

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Mohammad-341]

Is it possible to talk to her peacefully about what you'd like?

[Mohammad-341 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

She doesn't want to engage in counseling process.

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Mohammad-341]

Okay. Is she willing to sit with you and listen?

[Mohammad-341 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

No

[CLB1125]

Is her mother elderly or sick? Juggling a job, caring for her mother and raising a child iss demanding. Sex is probably not a priority because she tired. As a woman ages, sex becomes less important or the desire is just not there. Be it physically or exhaustion. Maybe suggest marriage counseling.