I miss being loved

[sad_watermelon]

I had a breakup with my boyfriend a few months ago. If you have red my previous posts you know that we are very good friends, because we ended things just because we didn't want the same thing in life. But I really do miss being loved... I miss being hugged, thinking about someone, knowing I have someone... I don't miss the intimacy, but the spiritual part of it

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

That is understandable. You have to grieve the loss of a romantic relationship. A lot of people tend to think grieving is just something you do and someone passes on. But it's actually for a lot of things. You can grieve the loss of a job and you can also grieve the loss of a relationship. You have to take time to heal from that. And it's perfectly natural to be sad. Especially when it comes to the fact that it was amicable. It wasn't anything really bad as just like you said we wanted different things out of the relationship. Whether that's marriage or children. And some things are not compromisable. And it's best to let go. When I was young I remember hearing that saying if you love something let it go. If it's true love it'll return to you because it's meant to be. And some people have found that to be kind of an oxymoron. But there is love in letting something go. You don't want to be in a relationship where you have certain things that you want. And you don't want to Force that person into something they don't want to do. And it is a loving act to realize you can't do that to the person and it's best to kiss and say goodbye. And you'll find love again. But it's right now it's hard.

Wishing you peace and healing 🫂❤️

[optimismrus]

I know exactly how you feel. I miss the affection and caring, too. I'm much older than you and I know I don't want all the other stuff that comes with a relationship anymore. You however are young and will find someone again. Until that happens love yourself as much as you can. Treat yourself lovingly. HUG yourself and say "I am loveable and I am loved". Remember, 🎶"I can buy my own flowers, I can hold my own hand!."🎶 You got this!🥰

[o0Joshua]

A decade of unrelenting loneliness here … there are ways to supplement those missed feelings for the time being. Being appreciated whether it be from the community, family or at work can deliver the same sense of love… I think volunteering to help a community is very effective… and a great way to meet new people… picking up new hobbies that teach you new things is a productive distraction… walking/exercise will also redirect that energy to rebuild yourself and restore the mind gut. Not sure how old you are but I get it, it sucks, but it’s not the end. Be happy and have things to look forward to ✌🏼🙏🏼

[Spud-u-Like1982]

After a nearly 7 years relationship (my longest), I find myself being kicked out in to the cold at a time when I needed her support the most, but her own mental health issues have crept back with a major vengeance, and I've found the last few months, some of the most gruelling I've ever endured. She knows July is my bad (suicide) month, but she just doesn't give a hoot - and unbelievably she works as a nurse!

My advice is, if you're able to look after a pet, get one. They give unconditional love and they are always happy to listen (well, 1 of my 3 rabbits doesn't like to listen). See your family and hug them, I'm sure they would be happy to support you.

It sounds like you have youth on your side. As you get older, I've found it's harder to find someone, as everyone is either married or, like me, jaded by past relationships and can do without them, or are overly suspicious/cautious of getting in to a new relationship. If you have a good network of friends, go out with them and enjoy yourself. You may end up meeting someone new that way. Genuinely, if I could go back in time to when I was 17 or 18, I'd tell myself that.

[sad_watermelon in reply to Spud-u-Like1982]

Thank you for your advice. I am afraid I am not lovable. All of my friends are into relationships or get people interested in them, but I am often feeling invisible, like nobody notices me, like nobody wants to meet the real me. That's why it was so hard for me to end my first 20 months relationship, even though I knew it was bad for me to stay in it. I am afraid of being alone, it's not good, I know, but I feel the constant need to talk to someone and hear their response, feel like somebody cares. That's why pets don't work for me I guess. I have a wonderful dog and I love taking care of her, but she doesn't like to be hugged or petted, which is something that I really need to feel her presence, but I respect her desire... Now I will have to move abroad and my parents are gonna take care of her as they have a big garden and I will be living in an apartment. I am moving somewhere where I don't know anybody. I am afraid, I know it's a new begging, but I feel like nothing's gonna work out. I tried to make contacts online through social media to find someone to talk to, just to meet them, but nobody responded. I am sorry I am telling you all of this, but I am feeling so lost and hopeless