BE KIND

[AlwaysaSurvivor]

I just want to say a few things. Please do your best to be kind to people that are struggling. Unless you know them personally, you can’t fully understand what they’re going through and exactly who they are. What’s right for you may not be the right choice for them. It doesn’t help anyone to be judgmental and outright cruel. The funny thing about words is that you can’t take them back once they leave your mouth or pen, and sometimes they can cut like a knife. You don’t want to be the one who causes more emotional damage for someone and possibly pushes them over the edge. Basically, treat someone as you would want to be treated yourself. That’s all I’m saying.

[Arymretep]

It’s called empathy, 👍

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to Arymretep]

Yes it is. I wish more people had it. Thanks.

[Agora1]

AlwaysaSurvivor, it's sad that kindness is far and few between.

The other day as I had just pulled into a parking space, an older gentlemen

patiently waited for me to exit my car before getting into his.

As I got out, my knee gave out and I could hear him say "Be careful, don't rush".

Those words of kindness keep replaying in my mind. Empathy is still alive. xx

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to Agora1]

thanks for your reply and sharing. It helps me to continue believing in the goodness of people. Unfortunately my experience was on this forum with a very angry person. I will get past it though. Thank you again.

[So_It_Goes in reply to AlwaysaSurvivor]

I’ve had a negative experience here as well, and I think some people don’t understand the potential long term impact their words have on others. I felt embarrassed and honestly, for a bit, anytime I posted on this site I would read and re read and often delete what I was going to say from the anxiety stemming from that unrelated incident.

Ultimately, I find that there are a lot of very caring, supportive people on here who respect and recognize that each person has their own emotional limitations. And I don’t mean limitations in a negative way, but how people react differently to the same content. What may not even emotionally register for one person could have a detrimental effect on another.

I’m sorry you had to go through something unpleasant in a place that is supposed to be a beacon of hope, community, and understanding.

But as I said, there are many wonderful and supportive people here who I have had very positive interactions with and I hope you stick around and find the same is true for yourself. ❤️

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to So_It_Goes]

Thank you so much for your reply and as the saying goes one rotten apple doesn’t spoil the entire crop. I have been on here for a while actually. I just changed my username. Yes it was a very hurtful experience and I’m still feeling the effects of it, but I’m a strong person and I’ll get over it. I have encountered many caring and compassionate people on this site and I will continue to post and reply. I hope you have a good day.

[Nothing_but_books in reply to AlwaysaSurvivor]

This verse is from a poem written in the eleventh century. Things haven't changed much since then.

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,

Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit

Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,

Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.

[Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books]

I love this!!! ❤️⭐️

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Starrlight]

Me too, thanks!

[Isinatra]

I sometimes forget that I’m in a community with people who have varying degrees of mental health issues including me, of course. Some have good days and can control their emotions and have kindness for others and sometimes they have bad days and can’t. I do my best to have empathy for those on their bad days because I’ve walked in their shoes. I have sympathy for the ones that I haven’t. I say try because of my issues . Being targeted and bullied is a hard one to handle (I’ve been there). Many times I’ve had help from members to get through and I’ve learned in time, on my good days, to let bad situations here play themselves out and they usually do, one way or another. Sometimes I just have to take a break when all the sadness affects me. Sorry, I have a tendency to meander…..

We’re all struggling…..that’s why we’re here. 🏄‍♀️🍕

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to Isinatra]

Thank you for your reply. It was very thoughtful and spot on. There are many good people on this site and sometimes a person can forget that we’re all struggling. I’ll get past what happened. I’m sure when I communicate with all those good people. Thanks again and enjoy your day.

[hypercat54 in reply to AlwaysaSurvivor]

Oh just read the rest of the comments.

I see you have been here before. Do you want to share what your previous name was please so your friends can identify you?

I do agree with what you say though and kindness costs nothing. I have found that if you are having issues with someone in pm its usually best to report it and mute them.

If its on the site then again report it. Abuse isn't allowed on here and the mods will act. Its honestly not worth getting yourself worked up over it though I know its very hard to ignore it, especially when you are feeling low yourself.

Welcome back anyway.

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to hypercat54]

Yes, my previous username was stillstanding 53.

The verbal abuse and bullying was via pm and it was yesterday. It was hurtful and deliberate, and I’d like to just forget about it. I don’t think that person would have the audacity to reach out again, but should they decide to stupidly do so, I will handle it. Thank you for your concern.

[hypercat54 in reply to AlwaysaSurvivor]

Oh thank you for that, much appreciated. If you haven't already then report the member from the pm page, then click on mute.

That way you will never be able to see any pm's they might send you. I have done this to several people in the past who have been abusive or hassling me.

We don't need that on here or in pm after all.

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to hypercat54]

that person is no longer on pm and I can’t hit any mute button. And I closed my account under the previous username. If that person appears again, I will report them for sure. Thanks.

[hypercat54 in reply to AlwaysaSurvivor]

You are welcome.

[Isinatra in reply to AlwaysaSurvivor]

🙏

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Isinatra]

You're not meandering my friend. I still learn from you.

[Isinatra in reply to Nothing_but_books]

☺️

[Starrlight in reply to Isinatra]

You’re amazing ❤️⭐️

[Isinatra in reply to Starrlight]

On my good days…..lol thank you, Starr

[hypercat54]

That's a strange post for someone who joined today? Have you been here before under another name?

[AlwaysaSurvivor in reply to hypercat54]

Yes , I have. Since April of this year.