Feeling Alone

[SCBronco]

Just feeling down and alone here of lately. Going through child custody battle where Judge put a temporary order and took the kids from a 50-50 schedule to me seeing them every other weekend. Thats a whole other story though that I don't want to get in to right now. My wife tries to cheer me up but gets upset when she feels not enough. I just feel like I'm in a place where everything is falling apart. I don't even know what I expect writing this post...

[litethatnevergoesout]

going from seeing your children 50-50 to every other weekend is enough by itself to cause total despair. let your wife cheer you up. you don’t need to fake happy but smile at her and let her know you appreciate her efforts, not just when she is trying but out of the blue.

[SCBronco in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

I do try and let her cheer me up, but I think I've been trying to fill the void by wanting more of her attention and then burn her out. So when she goes to "re-charge" during that time period I think thats when I hit a wall. I have weekly therapy but that appointment can seem like forever to get here when I need it.

[cashew78]

What do you do that makes you feel better when you're either down or feeling like your slipping? Make a list, and review it by what you can do immediately, in the short term, the medium term, and the long. Use it like a tool to help stave off and counter those times when you feel terrible. What on that list can you do right now to take the edge off that's beneficial? What can you do this week? This month? Keeping busy helps me because it's distracting, so maybe it can help you too. And, because you're working on yourself and trying to maintain some happy times, you can only benefit? And if it doesn't work, okay, now you know it doesn't work and you can move onto trying something else. What you're going through isn't easy, so take it easy. Good luck.

[SCBronco in reply to cashew78]

Thank you for your reply, I'll work on making a list out. Right now I don't feel like doing any of my hobbies but I'll try and get myself busy with something.

[cashew78 in reply to SCBronco]

You know you best, so do what you can when you can. Motion helps, but if you need to take it easy, take it easy for a bit .