I really think i'm not cut out for this world, if only i could go back 20 years when the world was kinder without tech and the internet, certainly it has its uses but its made life more stressful than ever. I cannot think straight, I get in a tizz about the most mundane things, for an example, today my car was
in for a service and i became flustered and anxious beyond belief, thinking the most ridiculous things, 'Will i knock into something on the way home' ,'are my dogs ok whilst i am away' , 'will i get grief from a tenant because it has to be arranged for someone to access his apartment to get essential work done ', bearing in mind that this tenant has just come out of hospital after a stroke, and his sister said no one can go into his apartment because he's not well' and just a few minutes ago a cold call saying £650 has been taken out of my bank account and i know its a scam , but it doesn't help my shattered nerves, and the odd thing is it is my local area code?
I have just ordered Focus Pro supplements to see if it helps with my nerves.
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You're not alone. I think life was much simpler in the 60's through 80's before the internet and the 24/7 "news" in tv. Our brains were not being bombarded with all this negative information all the time. We were outside more and enjoying life or reading books or doing hobbies or spending time with family and friends. It's a different world and I don't feel like I fit into it either. I'm anxious about every little thing. Today my heart is fluttering in my chest like I'm expecting something bad to happen. I need a tool but don't know where to get one to fix it. So frustrating!
Barbloki, yes, absolutely yes to the important of being outside more! Like many, I ended up gaining a lot of weight in the past couple years and am working to get it off. As part of that effort, I have started using a fitness tracker, and it has been mond blowing seeing how of I am active and moving around I can burn even more than 6,000 calories a day, while if I just sit at my desk and don't go outside I will burn less than 2,000 calories. Exacerbating things further, when I am sedentary I make poorer food choices - that is a en entire pound of difference in a single day. And, when I was obese I ended up just getting further isolated, and my sleep got worse, and I got more depressed.
I often think that if I had been born a couple hundred years ago or so and I was working every day to survive I would be better off mentally. I wouldn't have all these issues considering myself a failure for not having financial success perhaps, I just would have been working on survival every day. Maybe I would be in the exact same boat!😜
I have very minimal social media in my life and don't watch the news. Being a landlord would be extremely stressful. ☮️
I have little social activity and i agree that a hundred years or so ago the life was harder and yet i think people were much more thoughtful and kinder.
Greeting Secrets22, We are living in the perfect time, the perfect moment - this moment. I want to share one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite books the Snow Leopard by Peter Matthiesen: "The Lama of the Crystal Monastery appears to be a very happy man, and yet I wonder how he feels about his isolation in the silences of Tsakang, which he has not left in eight years now and, because of his legs, may never leave again. Since Jang-bu seems uncomfortable with the Lama or with himself or perhaps with us, I tell him not to inquire on this point if it seems to him impertinent, but after a moment Jang-bu does so. And this holy man of great directness and simplicity, big white teeth shining, laughs out loud in an infectious way at Jang-bu’s question. Indicating his twisted legs without a trace of self-pity or bitterness, as if they belonged to all of us, he casts his arms wide to the sky and the snow mountains, the high sun and dancing sheep, and cries, 'Of course I am happy here! It’s wonderful! Especially when I have no choice!'"
Oh yes, we absolutely live in terrible times and my heart goes out to everyone suffering, especially those in or fleeing conflict zones and poverty. But, sorry, I respectfully disagree that the world was kinder 20 years ago. I was near enough to the World Trade Center bombing to see smoke, and I knew people that died there, and I watched my country be misled into war in Iraq and watched as fellow peaceful protestors were brutally beaten by cops in New York and DC. The good thing about things being awful as they were then and they are now is that it is so easy to make things better.
Good luck with the focus pills. I have tried a couple dozen and none work as well as good sleep, aerobic and strength excercise, and proper nutrition. Focus on those big three: sleep, exercises and nutrition and focus will improve. Some pills do help some, Vyvanse in particular has been helpful for my ADHD, but even that prescription medicine can only have limited impact if any of those big three are not doing well.
Last, as a reminder of the awfulness of 20 years ago, I wanted to share a brief conversation except from a 2001 Arundhati Roy commentary article in the Guardian: "So here we have it. The equivocating distinction between civilisation and savagery, between the "massacre of innocent people" or, if you like, "a clash of civilisations" and "collateral damage". The sophistry and fastidious algebra of infinite justice. How many dead Iraqis will it take to make the world a better place? How many dead Afghans for every dead American? How many dead women and children for every dead man? How many dead mojahedin for each dead investment banker?"
You are welcome. A big thing for me, and part of why that quote from the snow leopard resonates, is the importance of laughing at ourselves, but also how all of us are connected, and all of our suffering is connected. I don't just want to get better - I sincerely want everyone, even my worst enemies to get better. I really liked what Barboki said above about being outside. One of the saddest things to me is that almost all of humanity has lost the ability to really see the night sky. Billionaires like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos have gotten filthy rich by polluting the night sky with satellites, on top of growth in urban areas and light. I had the food fortune of camping out last week in a rural mountain park and I was able to actually really see stars for the first time in over a year. I think no small part of the decline in global mental health is the disappearance of the night sky. tim.blog/2021/12/15/the-lib... Good excerpt about cosmic insignificance theory aka power of looking at stars at link above. One of the main things is just the importance of awe. It is truly awesome and overwhelming to look at the billions of stars in a relatively unpolluted night sky; when I am lucky I can see a couple dozen stars from my house.
I am attaching the photo from my link above in the hopes more people will see it. Seeing images like that makes me feel at least a bit better, but actually experiencing those stars is something else.
Awesome power of night sky from link in previous post.
Hi again,I agree with you about the internet , everything is so fast these days, no wonder there are so many mental health problems around, though I don’t know about the world being a kinder place then, what with two world wars etc,
Everything is changing so fast, and much more difficult to access I think, no local banks etc, it’s so difficult to speak to an actual person these days to help solve our problems
Remember my post yesterday about my melt down and not being able to cope with anything? That’s exactly how I felt too until I went on meds, and I got my anxiety about everything under control , I honestly dont think supplements are going to be strong enough for you to get back on track, take care , this too will pass
it’s true it’s a tough world out there not made any better by government corruption, walk in nature, take herbal supplements, I have been scammed twice since Christmas so I know that feeling, and I got 3 phone calls saying they had taken 799 out of my amazon account, just report them all, never ring them back - take care and sending hugs x n
I agree with u to some extent but there are some unlucky people who had been alone in last 20-30 years also they could not make friends. I m one of them
hey Mohammed...why are you alone when you have a wife and family, mother ,father, I believe you live in India, and i always thought Indians were very family orientated.?
I am thankful that i have a family, mean a professional and supporting wife and a son. But to talk of my father mother i hate my grandfather, my father abused me sexually, in emotional and economical abuse my mother in behind than my farther and siblings. Now i m living with my in laws that make my family i must say that last 3 yrs are happiest yrs of my life. But freind and family are different. Sometimes i want to talk openly, even about sex, that i can talk with my friends i can't with my brother in law. India does mean family anymore.
I entirely agree, but would 20 years be long enough? Life catches up after awhile.
I remember rationing, a phone box on the corner, very few cars, lorries limited to 20 MPH, no central heating, everyone smoking.
60s were good, 70s not quite as good, 80's too much unrest with Miner's strikes and other nastinesses,90's Aircraft hitting buildings or being bombed so they fell on people, 2000s terrorist attacks, need I go on?
I am with you 100% on this. I despair, all day every day. All I see is heavy heartedness everywhere I look. All I want to do is stay in bed and pretend this world was what it was like 30 years ago. Yesterday, I went to the supermarket and got verbally abused with an anger unfathomable for saying, "Excuse me" to a young mother with her toddler. On the way back, I saw someone had put a perfectly good pair of trainers on their wall for someone else to take if they wanted them. But someone had come along and spat all over them. I see this kind of mentality every day when I go outside. I would not thank you for being young again.
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I haven't had this bad of a day in a pretty long time.
How do I cope when I' m already drowning
When I see suffering 
When will there be light
How can I love others when I can’t love myself?
