Something to chew on

if a person is raised in a home where there is yelling and intimidation, and possibly violence . When that person grows up and commits similar acts, Who do we as a society hold responsible? Even though the parents may be the one that trained this person . We of course, hold that person responsible don’t we? What other choice do we really have?

What about if a person today ignores a person who’s been diagnosed with a handicap and repeatedly asked people to assist in finding answers and to be a support group when things may go a little astray that use silence, that use ignoring, that use manipulation and all that goes with it to help destroy , not help?

Who’s responsible in that case? Wouldn’t it not be the person portraying such acts?

If the person asking for help is not delusional or angry or violent .

Isnt the individual using such tactics to destroy the person desperate to solve sometimes extremely difficult problems in regards to mental health challenges, just as guilty the one or ones perpetrating the aforementioned verbal or physical assaults.

What really is the difference in today’s society? There probably isn’t any, but until societies starts to look at the damage of the ignoring and stigma of allowing people to treat those with a mental challenge differently than ones with a physical challenge than this kind of behavioral will travel on.

Right is right, but for now wrong isn’t always going to be corrected.

Maybe some day

If you are experiencing such behavior and can’t seem to find the help needed

We are here

[Ellamaye]

Hi Craig living 4 Jane. Thankyou for posting, you obviously feel very strongly about the situations within society that you refer too. You didn't mention specifics. I'm sure there are specifics though and something hat has troubled you x I really don't want to answer your questions in a general way . I'm not that person my opinions would always be based case by individual case. . Saying that 1 point you made stood out to me about the guilt of the perpetrator and the guilt of others who ignore and therefore facilitate the perpetrator. If I've understood you correctly then I blame them equally

[Hidden in reply to Ellamaye]

Exactly. It’s the same as if an individual witnesses the next door neighbor chronically abusing his wife both verbally and physically and does nothing. The abuser is definetly wrong and should be stopped. The witness is in effect condoning the behavior although it can be scary to get involved.

To me the same for both perpetrators and the bystanders of the silent treatment.

All forms are wrong and maybe the ignoring ones even more because the loud one we be eventually be subdued by the authorities or maybe not but chances are…

No one is exposing the “ silent treatment” abusers, so they are carrying on indefinitely or until the oppressed walk away permanently much perhaps much damage done

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

In my description I believe specifics aren’t needed since I feel strongly , from just listening to others with mental health challenges , they have experienced a similar absusive pattern

Thanks so much for your observations

Much love

Craig

[hypercat54]

'We are here'? Not sure what you mean by that?

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

If ananyone is experiencing a similar type of abuse, us on the site are here to offer some level of support.

Many people on here tell people to get away from a physical abuser .

I suggest sometimes it makes sense to ask for help or walk away from the manipulation of silence or ignoring.

Make sense?

[ADHDgifts]

One thing that comes to mind is that laws in many places still allow or are vague for abuse to children. This must be changed -and we must petition. We also must be the ones to break the abusive cycle. I have trauma from childhood but would never think of hurting my child. It sickens me to think how children are treated. Seek mental health help immediately if not breaking the cycle. It must end.

[Hidden in reply to ADHDgifts]

What an important goal. I’m in ! Please let me know how I can directly help

ABUSE of defenseless children , adults and animals should never be acceptable

EVER