I hate the feeling

[Jeff12345678]

Ive been feeling depressed and lonely for so long. I hate the feeling. Is it all in my head!

[TheBats]

"You're capable of such beautiful dreams, and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other." You are never alone. You are here now. We are all here together.

[Pitbullgirl in reply to TheBats]

That is beautiful. There is love in our heartbreak.

[Hidden]

hey Jeff?

Can you think of anything you can do to beat back the depression? Is there something you haven’t tried? A new doctor a new therapist different medication different dosages different therapies different diet different exercise, different meditations?

I’ve had depression for 50 something years. I’ve had a bad I’ve had it pretty good like now I’m had it in the middle. The bad years I was lonely as heck I couldn’t get out of my own head. Sounds just like you. The only way I think that any of us can get to a decent way of living is if possibly we can find a solution. Seems pretty obvious my statement, but sometimes it can be hard to see. Hard to do when you feel like shit , believe me I’ve been there and I know.

I feel for you so much there’s a desperation that hard to explain to anybody else that hasn’t been where you’ve been. Please try to see what you can do to alter your path. For me, it was finally going to a hospital where they did a full exam on me for everything I was taking , from blood pressure medication to mental health medication’s and they changed it all and they’ve saved my life.

I’m not saying that is the right solution for you. What I am saying is don’t stop trying to find a solution to your depression . If you can find that solution and beat it back and make it go way to acceptable point.

The loneliness will dissipate because you’ll be able to participate.

[LoveforAll41]

Jeff, I am so sorry that you are struggling.

I feel anxiety and depression in my gut-wrenching stomach pains, I feel it in the tightness of my throat, I feel it in the nervous sweats I get, I feel it in the dizziness of panic. So no, it isn't all in our heads 😜. Sorry, I was feeling cheeky.

I think what it is telling us is that something needs to change. I 100% believe that if we can change the way we think we can change the way we feel. I always recommend David Burns book "Feeling Great" and there is the accompanying podcast, the Feeling Good podcast. They recently did a couple of episodes working with someone on their loneliness. Welcome to the site, you are not alone☮️

[bonkers65 in reply to LoveforAll41]

David Burns is good!!!!

[bonkers65]

I'm sorry you are feeling bad. But It'll get better and like TheBats said, you are definitely not alone. We can all relate.

[Jeff12345678]

Thank you all for the many comforting words. I have been listening to some motivational speakers on youtube and it is kind of helping me. I still get depress and I still feel loneliness and Im going to try to meditate and im going to try to occupy my mind.

[Beevee]

Occupying the mind is good but gently does it. Deliberate distraction doesn't work. Developing a passive attitude towards the symptoms and going about your business without any expectation of recovery actually pays dividends.

Your focus turns outwards and pay less attention to the symptoms and leave them alone. The more you leave the symptoms alone, the more you recover.

[Jeff12345678 in reply to Beevee]

But how can I do that. What do you suggests of doing to lessen the symptoms?

[Beevee in reply to Jeff12345678]

Hi Jeff. Have a read of my posts on this forum and also pick up a book called Essential Help for Your Nerves by Dr Claire Weekes. Every single post of mine is all about facing and accepting all symptoms of anxiety which I practised after reading the book and understanding anxiety and depression.

There is no quick cure, no magic pill [medication does not address the root cause which is fear] and most people stay stuck in the cycle because they hate or fear the way they feel and try all manner of things to stop feeling that way. It's the hatred and trying that feeds the syptoms you are trying to get rid of.

Only when the sufferer allows all the symptoms to be there and do absolutely nothing about them does recovery begin.

On my road to recovery, I learned that you won't get better until you stop trying to get better.

A genuine attitude of acceptance leads to recovery.

Best wishes!

[debrajo1]

I have suffered from major depression and anxiety off and on for 30 years. It is not "in your head " exactly but it could be in your genetics as all 5 of my first cousins suffer from depression on and off too. In 2020 I was so depressed I admitted myself to a mental facility. Turns out the antidepressant I had taken since the 90's had finally worn out on me. After trial and error of several antidepressants, they finally found another one that worked for me. I feel "normal" again since that time. If you have not done so, I would advise you to see a psychiatrist who will help you get on the right medication. Some people say just talk to a counselor or psychologist, but in my case I needed medication. I think depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. I really didn't have any cause to be depressed as I did not have any major problems.

[Jeff12345678 in reply to debrajo1]

I dont think I have a family history of depression, atleast not that I know of. I want to try out taking meds for it. I have been taking gummies like THC/CBD inconsistently and they kinda help but through out the day after it wears off I get back to feeling depressed and lonely again.

[debrajo1]

As far as I am concerned, I think antidepressants are the best bet. It might take time for you to get the right medication though, but don't give up on the first trial if you need to take a different one.

[Jeff12345678 in reply to debrajo1]

I would need to see a therapist first.

[Teaching]

I hate the feelings too and wish it stop.