The unknown

[Ene1]

So I wake up one morning to be kicked out of my boyfriends house with a 3month pregnancy.

I was still in school during this time.I decided to keep my child even with no support from his dad.He told me to abort and went ahead to marry while I was 6months into the pregnancy.His family didnt care about me and having lost my father,my mother didn't have much work to support me.I was not even doing proper antenatal as I was not having the strength to face the crowd with explanations.I bought a fake ring and moved on in class.My class mates did mock me and asked how I got married without inviting them to the wedding.I had just a friend Martha who saw me through all this stage.I was a final year student and it was not an easy task.I am with a 10 year old boy now who has sicle cell.I do feel bad sometimes but I did have a wrong knowledge about my genotype before getting married.I have tried to have a great work-life balance.It has become so hectic as I get panic attacks occasionally.I can't manage my son with the income I earn.I try but it is never effort.I am lost some days and find my self some days.I just need great help as I still have to cater for 4 of my kid sisters with an ageing mother.Life is not smiling much to me.

[Dolphin14]

Welcome to the community.

I'm sorry to read you are having such a difficult time. Stess can do this to us. Are you able to get any health services such as counseling to help you?

So, you are divorced with no income from the father of your baby? Is there any support in your country for a child with a chronic illness?

Can you clarify? Did you have your baby in high school? I just got a bit confused on that part.

You have a big responsibility if you also have to care for siblings

We are here to support you

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[Ene1 in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes I had him in high school.I didn't marry the dad,we only got engaged.No much support from my country for single mothers with children with sickle cell.I have tried to book an appointment with a psychiatrist but to no avail.I do self therapy.I just realised I started having high blood pressure at this age.I guess I had bottle up for a while.I decided to Google for help and I ce across this community.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Ene1]

That's too bad there is no help for you or your son.

How is he doing?

I'm glad you googled and found the community. You will find a lot of support here

[Ene1 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you for the kind words.

[hypercat54]

You say in your bio you are 31. I know little about Nigeria but you must stay in high school until 21 then?

I am sure you will find the support you need in this great community.

[Ene1 in reply to hypercat54]

We don't use high school here . I was in the next step after Secondary School which is University studying English and literature.Thank you so much