birthday 2/6

[Theloudone]

it’s my birthday and each year it feels sadder and sadder. I miss my mom and my best friend who both have passed. My marriage is falling apart, I’m just trying to keep a brave face but some says I can’t hide if from my kids.

[litethatnevergoesout]

hi. You’ve got your share of trauma to grieve, there’s a bereavement forum on HU. the marriage falling apart has got to be too much with everything else. 4 years old is pretty young to come to terms with birthdays losing their glow. haha I know the 4 years old is a typo but birthdays do lose their glow at least that is truth to me. they continue to lack luster each year until they become totally just another day. Happy Birthday.

[Theloudone in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

Oh wow I never realized it said four haha. I wish I was, being a kid was carefree! Pre trauma. lol.

I am in that group also. My grief isn’t consuming me anymore and I’m able to function and get out of bed unlike when my best friend passed 4 years ago.

Thank you for your response.

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to Theloudone]

theloudone, glad to hear you’ve made so much progress with your grief. I know just enough about it now to know it’s an ominous monster that can rob you of any joy.

How about that 4! I was hoping you knew something we didn’t, the fountain of youth hole in the matrix! 4 would be a great age to go back to. wow.

[litethatnevergoesout]

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[Theloudone in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

Thanks, I’m in that group too.

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to Theloudone]

I am as well, it’s a habit of mine to share that whenever I see anyone suffering due to loss.

[gajh]

I am sorry for all of your pain and suffering. I will still wish you Happy Birthday. I hope you do something special for yourself.

[Theloudone in reply to gajh]

Thank you, I appreciate it.

[Shield_Of_Faith]

Happy Birthday! I'm sorry for your losses and the tough time your having and I really hope things get better soon. Stay strong, easier said then done I know. But you got support here. Again happy birthday I hope you have a great one. 🙏

[Theloudone in reply to Shield_Of_Faith]

Thank you. I appreciate it.

[Theloudone]

Ugh my “husband” said that I should just be grateful for the things I have and I control my own happiness.

Yes that is true but for people struggling with clinical depression it’s not that freakin easy!! And it’s annoying when people say things like that. Of course I wish it was that easy.

Anyone else get mad when hearing these things?

[corgi_fan817 in reply to Theloudone]

Yes.

[corgi_fan817]

happy birthday regardless. These days can be tough as they are anniversaries to some of our worst memories. But they end and tomorrow is a new day.

[Theloudone in reply to corgi_fan817]

Thank you