Okay a little back story and than comment away.
I have been in a committed relationship for 14+ years. It has good days and bad days. As all relationships do.
On good days:
We are a family, we do stuff as a family. Examples: going to malls, play board games, enjoying everyone’s company.
On bad days:
we are all in different rooms watching different things on tv, or playing video games, or just not communicating with each other as we should. And some of us ( aka me) take the role of doing everything instead of asking for help from my partner or my daughter.
I am having one of those bad days already, I am beating myself up for sleeping in, when I wanted to be up early, as I have ( a lot) ( even though, it can be a day by day thing) chores or activities that need to be done. And I have the bad negative in my head. So.
My issues is I am a people pleaser and a fixer, and I make everyone else problems my own, and I never take care of myself.
I have plenty of self care things to do. Example: a foot spa, back massager, a regular food massager, I have an art room to do all my painting, drawing, or coloring in.
But I was taught, no fun until all your work is done.
Was I the only one who was taught like that?
Also are there other people pleaser on here?
And what do you do to stop yourself from people pleasing?
How do you handle mornings?
How do you handle evenings?
How do you handle your job ( if have one)
How do you handle your afternoon?
How do you handle chores? Or life necessary things?
Just please leave your comments below. I am just looking for a lot of help, and maybe some good mental health support. Anything will do.