fear of failure 😞

[MandyBueno]

Hey everyone! I know the title to this is something everyone can relato to, which it is the fear of failing at something. Anyways, my problem is that I’ve always wanted to make something out of myself. By the age of 22 I left my country behind to come to America to start my life. Fast forward to today I am happily married and started to pursue a career. I am somewhat driven and book smart but man I suck at math. I was never good at it and was never taught right. My ultimate dream was to go into dentistry but settled with getting a teaching degree instead ( back when I was in Brazil). Now that I was given a second chance to go back to school, I wanted to become a dental hygienist. The thing is: THE MATH 😩 I had already dropped a couple of classes which is chemistry and math98. Me and my husband came to a decision to pull me out of the math classes and we bought an algebra1 book so I can learn things my own pace. I’m still at school but I’m taking anything humanities but I need to go into the science part here soon which includes knowing a fair good amount of math. I kid you not that my level of math was elementary and I worked my way out of this whole but I’m far away from being an algebra person. Since then I have already cried and even pondered not becoming a dental hygienist after all. “ maybe this is t for me” “ I’m not smart enough to go into the medical field”. I cannot escape those intrusive thoughts. My mother in law told me I didn’t have to go through with it and who needs a degree?… well I want to! Just because I’m conservative and I’m 26 and married and have no kids… I just can’t picture myself just being a mom, I want a career. My husband is in the same page as I am. But man it is hard to believe I can pull this off mainly because it’s a challenging field overall. Anyways I’m just venting here. I definitely don’t want to let my poor math skills prevent me from getting a good job in the future. Since there’s very little math involved when you are working was a dental hygienist… is just that the school system wants you to know a bunch of it…🤯 bottom line I’m tired of not being valued financially. I never had a good paying job. For the longest time while I was waiting for my green card to be approved I worked under the table as a nanny and being underpaid. The program I was signed up for that allowed me to live legally in America was all about working for an American family and back then I would make 6 dollars an hour. Back in Brazil I had been overworked to make pennies I couldn’t afford new shoes or clothes. Everyone would say : “ you have potential” and yet I never had a financial breakthrough. Yes I could be a stay home wife but that’s just not what my heart desires. Even though I came from a poor country my fancy ass loves to travel, to eat out, to live life!!! And in this economy I just don’t think is fair to put my husband through financial distress just so I can go on trips and shop. I need me a good career 😂 and dentistry I was always an option but I feel dumb whenever I’m faced with a math problem.

[Vonus5591]

there is always YouTube and search algebra or whatever maths topic. Just google

[catsrock]

Hi Mandy, I'm a former math teacher (high school and community college) and also had a home math tutoring business for years. Feel free to contact me and I'm happy to give you a free session online.

[designguy]

I was going to suggest that you find a math tutor to help you but catsrock beat me to it. If that doesn't work out you might talk to a counselor at school and see if they have a math tutor available or recommendation, i'm sure you're not the only one to have this issue. I didn't think I was good in math in high school and ended up going to a technical school and found out I was way better at it than I thought.