Row your boat.

[gerrerd]

Gently down the stream.

[Agora1]

Merrily, Merrily, Merrily, Merrily

Life is but a Dream Thanks gerrerd xx

[gerrerd in reply to Agora1]

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[Agora1]

But so true Twinkly...in the time lapse of the Universe, our lives are

but a dream long. Time for us to reach for happiness and not regrets. xx

[Agora1]

I hear you...in having someone you love no longer recognize you must

be heartbreaking. But we never know do we ?? xx

[gerrerd]

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[Turnipgirl]

One valuable lesson I have learned is how much of life is beyond my control and that its futile to get myself upset over things I can't change say the weather and the traffic and someone else's nasty attitude towards me when I have done nothing wrong.

What I do control is my own behaviour and the way I treat others in the same polite manner in which I would like to be treated myself.

A few weeks back I got nagged by my abusive mother to go to see her and she knows the score as she has been told no to that many many times but won't give up!

When I get told no to things I just say OK then no problem and feel disappointed but walk away and let the matter go.

One thing this year I have done extremely well at is saying no to selfish people and no the sky hasn't come crashing down just because I told them no and life is still carrying on!

A few weeks back it was Monday and I had just sat down to a cup of tea and the phone went and it was someone wanting to interview me on the spot!

They said to me is now a good time to talk and I went and told them no it isn't which was honest and I would call them when I was free which I thought was a fair deal.

The sky didn't fall in when I told them no nows not a good time!

Then they rang later that day at 4.30pm and I deliberately ignored their call for the reason that I had wanted some time for myself and yet again no the world didn't end and the sky didn't come crashing down either!

Thing is why are others more important than me?

I feel it's of benefit to me to be more selfish every so often as when you say no to others you can say yes to you!

[Turnipgirl]

To be fair I am also glad Christmas is over especially the run up to it as I found it extremely stressful!

This afternoon it's swimming which I am looking forward to and perhaps a hot lunch out.

[Turnipgirl]

Another lesson I have learned through getting evicted is that it's right that when things don't happen it's a blessing in disguise as when I look back on the places in the inner city I was denied nowadays I feel when that happened it was a blessing in disguise as I don't think I would have been happy at those places!

I feel looking back getting evicted back in May was the best thing that could have happened to me as I have learned new skills like keeping busy when made to wait like when I was made to wait for the bailiffs to come to evict and then this place came up at the eleventh hour so thankfully I got out before the bailiffs came in to evict!

Also it's about not dismissing uneasy feelings as silly and paranoid and investigate them and if they really are silly and paranoid you can let them drop and laugh about them!

The original plan at the old place was to have given us notice back in the December of 2021 when by law it was 6 months notice but they changed their minds and decided to postpone until it was back to the 2 months and when everyone did receive those notices back in the July of 2022 I personally wasn't surprised myself but still was shocked though.

The people in the front flat had been devastated to have received that notice and I had tried to comfort them and said to them didn't you see this one coming when they sent in that valuer back in April?

I said how I hadn't been surprised when I had received the notice as I had seen it coming but still was shocked though.

[Turnipgirl]

What it was was that lots of small things had built up like a constant round of booked appointments, worries about getting a job and money and it all adds up and it was one Thursday just after swimming when someone upset me there and brought me to tears!

To be fair that job interview I went to the Wednesday before Christmas when a member of staff there laughed in my face was a lesson to me not to go near that employer again as that was very bad manners in my view and thankfully I wasn't devastated over it as to some people things like that can feel like the world has ended so last Friday when I got that call saying they were sorry I hadn't got the job with them I jumped for joy as I would have told them no anyway!

At present I am on a break from job hunting and will come back next Tuesday after the festivities are finished.

[Turnipgirl]

Hubby said to me when I said what had happened about how when people are nasty towards us when we have done nothing wrong it's their problem not a problem with those it's directed at!

Yes that was extremely bad manners wasn't it to laugh in someone's face when they are reporting for an interview!

Onwards and upwards!

[Turnipgirl]

That's typical of bossy boots Pixie shoving mummy out of the chair!

We are really looking forward to new years day lunch out here!

New Year's eve we have decided to do curry and rice for Sunday lunch and give the carvery place a miss and perhaps return the following week!