need some people to chat with. im considering trying to get into a crisis center type of facility

[Joemamba13]

i was admitted to a behavioral health facility last month in wisconsin. everything wa going good and i planned to spend the winter with my mom up in michigan. well a month in and im just getting worse. theres no options up here and i feel like i need to get back to wisconsin to utilize the mental health options. i just dont have a place to live anymore there. but im getting worse by the day staying up here.

[Vonus5591]

if you can get help by all means use it - better to try than just fail/fall down

[litethatnevergoesout]

changing your scenery and routine take you away from your habits. you’re removing a habit you’ve developed in Wisconsin and now are opening your brain up to have to readjust with replacing that habit. they say the best way to break a routine is to go on vacation. all the sudden all the things you have become accustomed to are not there anymore. it’s great for breaking unwanted habits and bad for not wanting to lose them. begin each day with a healthy start and move on to following up with what you can to continue through the day as healthily mentally as possible. your habit brain will take over while your thinking brain slowly stops needing to be there. it’s a lengthy process but come up with a plan to create a new daily ritual and these healthy new developed habits will dominate your pattern forming brain, your decision making brain will soon just stop freeing you up to function in other tasks. it’s all habits. use this forum for support, maybe get a therapist to communicate with over video phone, find good breathing or journaling or exercise. it’s actually a good time to really be consistent. If you decide to stay in Michigan

[Joemamba13 in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

thanks for your reply. i should have added more info. im origanaly from michigan and have lived in wisconsin for the last 8 years. a seperation with my ex and a year and a half later im here. i have 2 kids that mean the world to me. moving back to michigan and leaving my kids was a tough decision but one i thought was best. as it turns out its going horribly. and i really feel like i need to go back to wisconsin

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to Joemamba13]

Joemamba, thanks for the extra update. how old are your children? how long were you and your ex together? doesn’t really matter actually say no more.

I’ve been separated for 19 months. I have two children. they are the world to me. I can imagine how very difficult it was for you to decide to move away from your children. honestly what a hard choice to make. I imagine everything going horribly for you. you’re grieving your whole family. I have had people tell me to move on, start over, change your life and start new and this that and the third. I can’t leave my children. I want to be available anytime and every time they can see me. I’m not a therapist or a doctor or an expert and I’m not good at advice. I think you know where this going. your children need you and you need them. get your money together whatever it takes. go back to your children man. that’s what i would do. It may not be a popular choice to everyone else, but I’m living it right now. very interesting how similar our stories are.

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to Joemamba13]

scrap that habit stuff, log it in as good to know for future reference. focus on being healthy and present for your children.

[Joemamba13 in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

👍 thats what im trying to do

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to Joemamba13]

high five. i support you man. keep us updated

[ladybyrd]

Joemamba13, wow! you've got allot on your plate their. You really can't help your children until you take care of yourself first. Is their a hospital you can go to we're your at now even if it's further out? Just get the help you need to get through this time. Your children need you well.

[Teaching]

Please do all you can to get the help you need. Prayers for you 🙏

[barlock]

crisis center people have helped me immensely. give them a call

[Joemamba13]

well i have decided to stay in michigan for the winter. gonna be changing my insurance and find a new therapist. i think being somewhere familiar will help vs a crisis center. the last few days have really concreted my thoughts in that i gotta do this myself. i cant rely on people like i have been. ill just have a little faith that itll work out for the better. being away from my kids is the toughest thing ive had to do, but i can visit frequent and do video calls every night with them. ill soon be doing virtual support groups on live-well. one day at a time

[gajh in reply to Joemamba13]

Well please stay in touch here too. We are here for you.