Christmas Solitude

[permtrav]

I hope everyone is having a wonderful Christmas. As for me, I am spending the day alone - taking long walks, reading, watching movies, playing video games. Pretty much what I do every day (I'm retired).

Sometimes I think that it would be nice to have a friend. But then I think of all the toxic people that have been in my life - two parents that hated and abused me, three older siblings that did the same, cousins, aunts & uncles, school bullies, difficult people that I had to work with for decades, my ex-wife. When I think of these people, being alone - even lonely on occasion - is far, FAR better.

[gajh]

I am glad you are here with us. Now you are not alone.

[Hidden in reply to gajh]

Hello gajh and permtrav no your not alone how was your day gajh are you alone today it was just me and mam I've come home now I got her to ring her brother as he's alone and he was glad to chat with us his grandson lives upstairs with him but he hasn't even spoke to him today yet, I like a quite Xmas myself unlike when I was younger, quite the party animal I didn't even have much to drink just a glass of wine with hit water then top up shut my eyes for bit as was tired with the big meal what did you to have, I think when msm dies ill stay on my own i know ill be invited to family but I'd rather not go, I'd rather stay home with my cat I wish you a peaceful night and boxing day it's full moon hope yiu see it its v comforting 🤗😻🌟🌝

Pressie time

[gajh in reply to Hidden]

Merry Christmas Twinklynaturelady. I am home celebrating with my boyfriend and his nephew. Dinner isn't for a couple of hours. I am on here while they are in the kitchen cooking. I wish Santa brought me as much as he brought Pixie. Pixie is very lucky. I am glad you were able to be with your Mam.

[Hidden in reply to gajh]

Thanks, that's nice you have your company we don't bother much with pressies now just mam n pixiebob lol he's just gone out but raining best let him in enjoy your dinner 🤗😻

[permtrav in reply to gajh]

Thank you gajh!

[Lostintheworld]

I think you should try to find a friend.

[LadyZen]

That's how I feel when I think about my ex. One thing about me that my kids find odd is that I don't get lonely. I can be alone for long periods of time and be perfectly happy. I spent 17 years in a miserable marriage, and after my divorce, finally being alone was the best feeling in the world compared to spending another minute with someone like him. I also spent the day doing exactly what you listed. Except, I did text some people I have connected with in awhile Merry Christmas.

[permtrav]

Someone once said something like, being alone isn't so bad, what is bad is being with someone who makes you feel alone. I'm glad you got out of your miserable marriage. I don't understand why people are so horrible to the person that they've vowed to spend the rest of their life with. I hope you had a great Christmas and I hope you can enjoy the rest of your life, now that you've gotten away from a toxic person.

[Horsesarebeautiful]

Hi,

I spent Christmas alone, too. On top of that, I've got a bad head cold and bronchitis that doesn't want to go away. I fell asleep in front of a few movies, and watched some westerns. (Love the horses). Tried to keep it off Christmas themed movies as much as possible.

My family sounds like yours. Abusive bullies not worth being around. They strut around like proud peacocks when they gang up and wreak havoc. I thank God I'm retired, now. Co-workers were the same way.

I spent yesterday taking medicine, and resting. I know stress is keeping me sick longer than usual. My sister died in September and tomorrow is her birthday. It'll be another day to "get through."

She died from being on Eliquis, which she should never have been started on. She bled to death, throwing up massive amounts of blood. Several people are responsible for starting her on it, and then keeping her on it after charting for months they didn't see why she was taking it. She was schizophrenic. She didn't know what pills she was handed to take in an adult assisted living facility.

If anyone knows of a Texas attorney taking Eliquis cases please let me know. I cannot sue for wrongful death in Texas as her sibling.

I'm sorry anyone has to spend holidays alone. But, when you consider the options as far as family goes, alone is the right choice.

Best of luck to you in the new year! Best wishes to us all.

[permtrav in reply to Horsesarebeautiful]

Wow, I'm sorry to hear all this. Especially about your sister. I'm not a big fan of drugs, especially prescription drugs. If you need to get through a day, of course it's best to stay busy doing anything. But if you're ill as well, that makes it even more difficult. Sometimes all one can do is to be strong. Good luck to you