Attacked by my support group

[magicfan89]

I was attacked by my online support group last night

A man came to the group looking for advice and seemed to be in a really bad place. I deal with a lot of social anxiety so I wasn't comfortable speaking my advice, and it took a while to muster up the courage to type a message.

By the time I figured out how to say what I wanted to say, the group had moved onto the next woman and her topic. Before I could get my finger off the enter button, she attacked me for 'demanding' that we go back to the previous person's topic, 'stealing' time from her.

In addition to this, the facilitator praised her for standing up to me. I had no chance to explain how hard it was to get the courage up to even provide a response to the first guy and it was just bad timing. Nevertheless, I'm apparently the biggest asshole in the group.

The guy I provided advice to thanked me privately, but it still doesn't help to know that I've broken some kind of sacred code in group that we can never be late with advice!

I just needed to put these words somewhere. Thanks.

[LadyZen]

Reminds me of how I feel when I'm on Reddit.

[IncognitoC]

All you need to remember is that even though you apparently “broke the rules “ you actually did nothing wrong! In fact you tried to help someone else even though you were having issues yourself.

[davidthecoder in reply to IncognitoC]

This.

[Wakeboarder24]

You remind me of an experience I had with a support group. They were so concerned with following the code that it made it an unsafe place.

[wittsend0]

I'm sorry, if they gave you crap for trying to help, you are in the wrong group.

[HopeLoveFaith]

You did nothing wrong in my opinion. Just know you are special and deserve to be treated that way. Hugs, and I would have come back and waited for your response 🫂

[Wakeboarder24]

Find a support group that YOU like. It is common in support groups to not bash the group but not every group is for you and that does not mean there is something wrong with you.

[Wakeboarder24 in reply to Wakeboarder24]

An example is religion is a game changer for some people and some people find it scary and toxic.

[Midori]

That is the advantage to this site; it is not Live chat, so you can take a little longer to consider a reply.

I hate Live chats, because I am not a touch typer, and due to poor sight, am fairly slow.

Cheers, Midori