Regression. I don't feel 23. I can't fit. Probably with mental illness i can never have a normal life

[Against_the_current]

So this summer i did regression because of my sickness. I am also doing a regression because of my half-sibling which i found out at 20 so 20, 21 is 19, 22-18, 23-17. Since my 23rd birthday i don't feel like an adult at all. And it really bothers me how other 23yos have five jobs and fifty exes. I have none. I have spoken about some online troubles but actually none and i feel deeply hurt wwhen i like someone and they have had someone before me. Or if they go to work. Also my classes are same time as my courses. My mind the mind membership is also not sure. Seasonal depression. I just want to avoid everything and sleep all day

[Ellamaye]

Your still young and your obviously trying to feel better so give it time

[Against_the_current in reply to Ellamaye]

Thanks

[CLB1125]

we all feel like going to bed and pull the covers over our heads but we can’t, we have children, spouses and jobs. We have responsibilities so we pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and make ourselves face the world. That’s what adults have to do, we don’t have a choice. You’ll find that some things you thought you can’t do, you do and think that wasn’t so bad.

[Against_the_current in reply to CLB1125]

I feel like i can't be an adult

[CLB1125 in reply to Against_the_current]

I’m sorry you feel that way.

[Ellamaye in reply to Against_the_current]

I feel your trying to say you can't deal with responsibility? To be honest it's normal to feel like that responsibility kind of just happens and then you just deal with it.

[SoporRose]

AtC,

I didn't understand a lot of your message, but here's my response to what I did comprehend.

As you probably know from your psych studies, our brains are still very changeable until we are at least twenty-five and even after that we have incredible neuroplasticity. Change, even benecial change, can be scary. It can feel as if we are losing the self have, that we are trading in the devil we know for one we don't. I believe that you have the courage in you to make that change, but it won't be easy, it won't be quick, and will involve facing some difficult realities and listening to things you don't want to hear rather than preemptively telling people not to raise topics that make you uncomfortable or upset. There are a number of people here who are wiser than I am to whom you might want to pay attention. I see my role in this on-going conversation as being supportive; others may offer you more useful insights and advice than I have been able to muster.

Remember: You have some truly impressive accomplishments of your own, such as surviving your family's issues and performing at a phenomenal level in school. You have professors who think very highly of you, who will be there for you when you need professional advice and recommendations. Stay in touch with them; they are likely to be able to help you with practical matters such as getting jobs or securing internships. Your family is problematic, no question, but they do seem to love you in their own way and to provide you with some kinds of support. And there are quite a few of us here on HealthUnlocked who care about you, who listen to you, who cheer you and want to see you succeed. You are not alone and I have faith in you.

Ruth

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I can understand what you're going through. I too for the longest time. Never felt like an adult. It wasn't until my mid-20s that I started to conquer my anxiety. And for almost 10 years I was living anxiety free life. And for the first time ever I felt I was living like an adult. But since my fall from grace , I haven't felt like I'm an adult. I'm 35 now. I'm trying to rebuild my life again.

Though I have to remind myself and not get stuck in this loop of negative thinking. Anxiety can be beaten. I know this because I've already done it before. So that means I can do this again.

I also remind myself that I am an adult. I have been through things and I have done things that most people probably in our shoes couldn't even do. We have weathered storms to the likes of which no one has ever seen but us. And being an adult has a very broad definition. We can't look at it in black and white terms.

It's perfectly fine to take some rest. You have dealt with a lot. With family issues, your own issues and still you find the energy to go to your classes. That should be commended. You are doing the best that you can do. 🫂❤️ And I'm proud of you.