Whom to blame??

[pratyaya_23]

I think the worst feeling in the world is telling someone you're in pain and hearing them say there's no wound. It took just a second to pass judgement that whole life of someone's is a big lie. You're nothing but a liar. And worst is when you do nothing about it but accept it.

But I am failed to understand why the validation from others is so important?, atleast for me!! Mind is so much stuck in a pattern where it reached a point that it's no longer in position to differentiate between reality n illusion, between right or wrong, to choose between acts worth spending energy or wasting energy!! Its easy to say just ignore!! But is it really easy, may be yes!! for stronger people not for me.

Whom to blame??

Its something like....

Who should be blamed when a leaf falls from the tree...is it the wind that blew it away, or the tree that let it go, or the leaf itself who grew tired holding on? #passingout #unsungstruggle #burningout

[CLB1125]

That is a great analogy. Who is to blame? But who will own it?

[catsrock]

That person who said that about that there is no wound is ignorant and does not have a clue about mental health issues. I've had doctors and other people dismiss me about my depression so many times, it's really hard and defeating to hear. Finally it seems that people are taking mental health issues seriously, but when I first started struggling with depression in the 90s there was so much ignorance. It's better now, but we still have a long way to go. I like your leaf analogy very much.

[bethelbee in reply to catsrock]

You are so right in that we still have a very long way to go. Our mental health issues do not define us. I am frequently advocating for myself and trying to educate others, though the only ones who truly understand are those of us who have experienced it My own MD brothers have brushed off my feelings and made me feel so invalidated. I lost a lifelong friend a couple years ago because she said some hurtful things during one of my depressive episodes, said she didn't feel I was trying hard enough to get better, when in reality she had no idea what I was doing. She had previously been supportive of me and came to visit me a couple times during hospitalizations. I even sent her some information from NAMI to help educate her on depression and how to support a friend going through it. Nothing ever came of it and she is now out of my life forever. I don't miss her at all anymore.

[mizzou7016]

pratyaya_23 I responded to this with my own post...but I've got an idea on why it matters....In my case there are a couple of reasons why my perception of what other people think of me matters to me....Professionally I want people to understand that no matter what I think of them personally.....we're all going home to our familes at the end of our shift....hopefully no worse for wear...Although I've got nothing to prove professionally....I feel like I've got to prove myself every day....because someone else's life may depend on my response...or lack of response...personally my heart is soft....and golden...and although i wish it could be cold....it can't...no matter how hard I try not to be...I am a complete people pleaser....