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I don't know how to be happy

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All I have ever wanted in my life is to be a mom, the only dream I've ever truly had. I've had bad luck with relationships though and it hasn't happened. Now I'm nearly 35, single with no prospects and I see the chances of me ever getting motherhood slipping away. It's so hard for me to see the people around me getting pregnant and having everything I've ever wanted. It physically hurts me. I know I should learn to be happy and grateful for what I have but I just don't know how. It's getting harder and harder to resist the urge to just end it all.

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Wakeboarder24

is it possible to freeze your eggs?

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JustExisting41 in reply to Wakeboarder24

It's expensive

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Mumma_h

Don’t give up hope !! You are WAY to young !!! I know women who marry young and have babies but are still having babies in their late 30s forties !!! Sometimes unexpectedly!! . I’m not saying that we don’t have a biological clock and all that blah blah blah 😆, but you’ll be surprised how one year someone can be wanting a family and next you hear they’re up to their elbows in nappies . I just wanted you to know this 💕 I’m saying a big prayer for you right now that a wonderful person will come along for you soon , who wants just the same as you .

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Mumma_h in reply to Mumma_h

oh and please please reach out to someone if the worry all gets too much , you are very precious and Gods child and shouldn’t have to feel that way ,💕

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BrmhmR

I have sympathy for you, it must be very difficult and I couldn't relate to how you feel as I am not an age yet where I believe it would be right to be a parent. But by what you have said, you sound like you would make a great mother as you care about it a lot. I know this is not the same as giving birth to your own child, but maybe the option of adopting a baby would offer the closest chance of being a mother to a child you gave birth to. Essentially, you would be their mother and you would be able to carry out the responsibilities of being a mother throughout their lives.

I hope you find what you desire and I understand the worry of time slipping away as we age but there is always hope with those who care. So I wish you the best.

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