It's hard being a in ur 20s and i guess it only gets harder getting older

[Against_the_current]

You graduate and what are you now? Lose student status. Like a bird thrown out of the nest. Everyone says it's lonely because you watch your friends get in relationships and careers and outgrown you. Your family gets older. You're left alone, scared and unemployed. You don't know what to do. I can't adult. Please take me back to school. I'm scared. I can't do work and family. I don't want to get old and die out of being old. I don't want to work 9-5 to drive little monsters to school and get divorced and start drinking and watch myself rot and say "this generation is so messed up, at my time things were better". My only chance is getting a master's but idk if i should go for the degree i want which is one year or another degree that i don't want but is two years and i can get a good job afterwards. Well, even then i have no garantee i will like this job or that dad will support me the second year

[SoporRose]

What are the two degrees you are considering?

And "adult" is what you are, not something you do. You *will* find your way, just as you found a way to get through your exam brilliantly. Next step is taking time with your grandmother for both of you to start getting better. With luck, that time away will give you the chance you need for your mind to start clearing and find some calm.

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Thank you! Mom will pick me up and drive me to Grandma's at 15th and on 17th me and grandma will go to the sanatorium. At least i will see sis for two days but still worried. I have to choose whether to go for common psychology in my university (1 year, easy pass, can work in all fields of psychology, in my university) or logopedics in my university (2 years, a bit harder, quite secure job if i can stand it, in my university) or logopedics at the medical university (2 years, harder, quite secure job if i can stand it, in the medical university). For my university applying is in September but for the med uni it's till 28th july so i gotta decide. Easiest would be common psychology but it's just 1 year and I'm trying to slack 2 more years of being a parasite. But it gives me chance to keep on studying 3 more years for a PhD which would allow me to teach at universities if there are open spots for psych profs. Dad's an university teacher and i think this job would suit me more

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

You write "if I can stand it," but I don't know what it it that you are afraid of not being able to stand.

Will a degree in logopedics require you to work with children or will you be able to specialize in adult speech therapy? I seem to remember that you prefer working with adults?

Could you talk to the people in the sanitorium about your options? Ask them how they like their jobs?

If you decide you want to teach at a university, won't you need to have some experience as a therapist to be able to teach students how to be therapists? As MARYRD27 noted, "many graduate programs feel it’s a good idea to have some life experience before starting an advanced degree." That's something worth considering while you at at the sanitorium.

I hope your time there is restful and restorative.

Ruth

[012703060610]

Sending support. Try not to play that tape reel in your mind that you could grow up, have kids, divorce, etc. Everyone has a different path. You are still so young, but yes an adult. What I can say, it whatever you major in for second degree or your primary degree, may not be what you end up doing at all. I approached college in a way where I knew I just needed a foot in the door at a large company. I am prone to math and took on a double degree in math and actuarial science. These are nerdy degrees and they had a 100% placement rate for students after school. I later went to get my Executive MBA paid for by my company. I landed a job at a major firm out of college. Within two years, I was out of that technical role and moved into a sales position which was more for me at the time. Lots of travel but was young without the obligations. Things became very hard after kids. I think you mentioned potentially a legal degree? That could be very well suited as an add on whether or not you decide to be a lawyer. The more knowledge you acquire, clearly the better position you will be in. Have you thought about healthcare work? Would that give you some purpose? I think about all of the Drs I have but the staff at all levels are the people getting things done. I call them my little angels because they get to the Dr when I need them to. Just sharing some thoughts and ideas. Truly sending support. Glad your exam went well!

[Against_the_current in reply to 012703060610]

Thank you. Here my resources for second degrees and degrees out of my field are a bit limited. Also my mental capacity. I am more about to upgrade my bachelor degree than get another bachelor. And i get only one degree with 70% off. I need master's and the master's depends on my bachelor field. I graduated psychology. Wondering what masters with it to get. Maybe common psychology, people also tell me to go for logopedics but idk if i can bear it

[punkster]

Have you tried talking to a therapist about your thought process? Graduating from school is very scary. I still remember the feeling and it was almost 40 years ago. I realize that the world is a different place now, but I think a therapist could help you with your thoughts.

[Against_the_current in reply to punkster]

They should but my therapist just hitted me with an emdr session about childhood trauma and didn't talk about this.

[MARYRD27]

I believe in following what you love. You already know what you don’t want. Leaving the security of college is hard, but we all have to do it. There are many people in the same position as you and if your college has a career office/center try using their services. Also, many graduate programs feel it’s a good idea to have some life experience before starting an advanced degree. Unless you are absolutely sure that you want a specific master’s degree, I think some work experience will give you some insight into what you want to pursue.

[Against_the_current in reply to MARYRD27]

Yeah but in my university there's basically no student service

[Jeff1943]

Forget about all those make-believe problems, they won't happen. As they say: you are the captain of your ship, the master of your fate. Don't just drift with the tide, take control of your life which you are well endowed to do.

Make sure you get enough rest, avoid recreational substances, they are not your friend. Decide on a way forward that serves your interests and stick to it. So many attractive options are beckoning, spoilt for choice. Life is an adventure with excitement at every turn, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[Against_the_current in reply to Jeff1943]

Thank you