Anxiety & Panic

[HealingMyself]

I had to end communication with what use to be my support person 😪 due to them being narcissistic...it has been a struggle anxiety extremely high and often panicked..I guess I need support and kindness ..idk

[LilyAnnepuppy]

If they are narcissistic, they were never your support person. You deserve better. Go for it.

[HealingMyself in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Thank you for the positive confirmation

[Sylvain- in reply to HealingMyself]

I second LilyAnnepuppy : by definition, narcissistic persons have a very high sense of importance for themselves and will engage in activities that will reinforce that feeling. If your support person is a narcissist, they have never genuinely helped you for your well-being but primarily to boost their own ego.

For something more constructive now: what kind of help did you search for in that person? You said you felt extremely anxious after that break. I didn't fully understand: did you feel anxious because of their reaction or because you were afraid of hurting them? Or are you anxious about yourself because of, for example, the irrational fear no one else would accept to hear you?

In all cases, try to convince your mind it was actually a good thing to stop that relationship. Easier said than done, of course. Our mind can be incredibly stubborn regarding its constructed fallacies. I send you all my support.

[Marysblue]

I'm in a similar situation with my one family member that I have left. We'll get real close and then they go MIA. It keeps me stressed out when they disappear on me.If I say something about it then I'm complaining so it's a no win situation. I'm so sorry youre going through it too cuz I know how bad it hurts. I don't have any words of wisdom. Just know that you're not the only one going through something like that. I'm here if you need me.

[Cantdealanymore]

I went through something similar recently and it really hurts

[Surfwalker3]

Hey, I'm going thru something similar. It's a scary feeling being alone with high anxiety and panic attacks. I've been slowly healing myself over the past year, it will be a year on the 15th that I've gotten a horrible person out of my life after 26 years. Anyway, I'm healing myself on my own terms, I have some tricks I use to help me stay focused and feel better about myself. So please if you need to talk, vent or just say hi, I'm here.

[designguy]

Good for you for having the courage to end the relationship and get on with your life. What might help you is spending some time on healing codependency and learning to take care of and validate yourself and increase your self-worth, which will help you personally and so you don't attract another narcissist into your life again. There is a lot of good info on youtube and books about it.

[pamb67]

I honestly don't see how a narcissist can support you there only about themselves so I really hope ur away from them now

[QueenVic1952]

My adult son has no patience for my anxiety. At the moment we are taking a break. He's creating too much stress for me to handle. He doesnt get it because he doesnt have it. At this point I'll walk away rather than be abused and stressed out more. He is my son and I love him dearly but.......

[Trainchaser]

This post is 6 days out so I am hoping you are in a better space now