For those who have been following up with me know what I've been through since a few months and how it has been bothering me. A few weeks ago (probably some 2 weeks or more), I stopped talking to my parents. As in completely stopped. No 'hi', no greets, nothing. I just didn't feel like doing it. We got into an arguement which turned up into a fights between us and it lead to us not talking to each other.
I thought, they would realise my absence in some way and would start introspecting their behaviour. They did feel my absence, only during the tasks that were important to them. Introspection? Naah!
It's been some 3-4 days that we were compelled to interact a little due to our housemaid around us as we didn't want her to make use of the situation in her favour.
Since then, everything has been repeating it's course. All the toxicity, tantrums, negativity, everything.
It made me really upset that there isn't any significant value of me into the lives of the people I love since my behaviour didn't made them think twice about what they've been doing.
This whole situation made me realise something :
1. It's useless and stupid of us to expect people to change when they don't want to change in the first place.
2. People only change when THEY think they are wrong. Until that time, it's all a waste of time trying to change them.
3. A person who has lived more than 50 years of their life believing into something and behaving a certain way, it's nearly impossible to even expect them to change.
All of this made me conclude my situation.
1. Since I'm in front of them, I'm an easy target. The moment I'll be off their eyes, they will feel my absence since I won't be there to do even the basics of the tasks.
2. The moment I'll be financially independent, I would definitely need them less since that's the only reason why I'm still depending on them.
3. The moment they get some time off their lives (when they'll retire), they will have enough time to spend with themselves. That would be the actual time when they will need me as somebody to talk to, if not more. That would be the exact time when they will have some moment to introspect themselves and maybe, MAYBE, they might start accepting where they went wrong.
Until that happens, things will stay the same as they have been. It is completely upon me on how to stay out of it.