Sometimes I feel a failure at work

[Steph2293]

I don't like the feeling of making mistakes, because the fear and anxiety torments me.I try to do a good work, but mistakes are inevitable.

How can I overcome those feelings?

I hate to feel like that.

[Agora1]

Mistakes are inevitable Steph. That's because we are not machines,

we are human.

Remember it's not about the quantity of your work load but

the quality in the end results. xx

[Celtic27 in reply to Agora1]

Hi agora good to see your still around ! Had a bit of a health anxiety time my dad was taken into hospital last night and its early days yet to get solid answers what's happening I just hope he gets out and feels better ❤️

[Agora1 in reply to Celtic27]

Hi David, sorry to hear you dad is in the hospital but know that it is a safe

place to get the answers needed. I wish your dad well.

Take care of yourself my friend as well. Stay strong, Keep us updated xx

[TailWags]

Took me years to figure out i dont hate my job , i hate the anxiety about potential mistakes. I wrote about this earlier, but i got so worked up about it and felt i had brain fog and memory issues to lead to more mistakes. After various tests and treatments, found out the brain fog and memory issues are due to anxiety. Vicious circle. One way I have tried to address this is thinking how I would react if a coworker did whatever mistake i made. I am usually much harder on myself. Perhaps the most helpful thing was when I made a mistake, that took lots of people, time and documentation to fix, people, especially the project manager, were really nice about it. It was like a miracle or something. It wasnt anything like what I imagined a mistake of that magnitude would do. Also, i have noticed other people make mistakes and people are pretty nice about it too. I assume this experience is different at every job, but i sure am glad i was working with this project mgr. I dont think she realizes the difference she made in my life. There were other coworkers that werent so nice. One wrote an email to coworkers and various managers about how awful i was. Another would rag on me in meetings in front of other people. I decided some people are just mean and I am not so bad. Now I notice when I catch things that others didnt , or when people like my ideas. Our perception plays such a huge role in our lives. Best wishes for you on your journey. May you run into nice people at work.

[Rituals]

It’s hard if you set high standards for yourself. You’re human & not a robot. If someone else did the same, would you be hard on them? It’s not the end of the world. We all make mistakes as long as you correct them. We hit a gas pipe, crashed the car etc, it happens. If someone ridicules you, defend yourself & ignore them. Have they never made a mistake? The one’s that are cruel have issues themselves. Be kind & stick up for yourself.