seeking support

[Roukaya]

Due to have dental Implants tommorow.

Big argument with my Mother.

AS I recently passed the Diploma in Wills and Probate, I am seeking a role for experience but very hard to find as I am inexperienced.

Told by my Mother I am unlikely to succeed given my age as a I am 53.

I had a huge argument as to how she has treated me in the past and I was told I am damaged

[Starrlight]

((((((((((Roukaya))))))))))) ignore the negative

[Roukaya]

I have implant dental surgery tomorrow and she is very angry as I answered her back

[hypercat54]

Roukaya I have said this before a few times and will say it again. Never engage with a narcissist as you will not win - ever. Unless you want aggro and arguments that is!

[Roukaya in reply to hypercat54]

This already happened .

My Mother has a terrible temper and this morning all of her past treatment came out.

She is ill with the flu and she has called me damaged.

she thinks I am a fool for trying to find a Solicitors firm willing to offer the opportunity of training in Wills and Probate .

I am 53 and being treated as someone who has answered her Mother.

How are you

[hypercat54 in reply to Roukaya]

She can only vent her 'terrible temper' on you if you let her. You are. What you need to do as soon as she starts is say 'Oh got to go now mum - the doorbell just rang', or 'My other phone is ringing'. I am sure you get the picture. Or how about 'Yes mum I know how you feel so no point going on about it again'.

If you do this enough times she might get the picture. The ball is in your court. It takes 2 to engage in an argument.

[Roukaya in reply to hypercat54]

I have been on and off this site and matters came to a head as I confronted my Mother how she has treated me in the past

How dare I as I have been told

I am your Mother

I realise you once explained that I would indeed struggle to find a role in law and I have tried for five years since studying for the Probate Diploma and it saddens me greatly that I may not succeed in my chosen field

Having a Narcissist Mother does not help and she is angry and sulking

But thank you for your reply

How are you

[hypercat54 in reply to Roukaya]

I give in...

I am ok thanks.

[Midori]

Hi Roukaya.

Great to see you back here again, see your mum is up to her old tricks.

Cheers Midori