Worried about sister's birthday on 17th feb

[Against_the_current]

Im really worried what i will do for her birthday. Last birthday i was a lifelong traumatizing experience. Mom wanted grandma to come and lied she told her to come, i was there and I was mad she didn't ask us, mom got mad and said it was a lie to "test" us and she sees now how much we value her and she will give up the parentsl rights of sis and leave her to dad's new family and was like "do you know you have a new sister" and me and and sis were crying. .. Since then sis just says "do as you please, i don't care anymore" to avoid it again. And im scared i can be a new family member that comes from a far and ruins everything.Rn im in exam session break. We don't have classes, just exams from today to 14th February. Sister's birthday is on 17th February. I don't know what to do , whether to go home or just pay a visit or to ask her to pay me a visit but this would exclude either mom or dad and this could be critical. Mom is getting lazy and would go "make your dad take care of stuff". I thought about going to an event on 18th but it's in another city and we would need a lift and i doubt mom leaves her to me all night in a new city, not even my own, where we don't have where to stay, i guess we could go just for the event, but still i doubt they leave us alone there at night

[SoporRose]

Those are tough choices. If you can't decide what's the best course of action, perhaps you should ask your sister what she would like to have happen. It is her birthday, after all. Then the two of you could make a plan together and maybe also come up with a back-up plan if your sister's first choice doesn't turn out to be viable.

I think it will be great when your sister turns eighteen and can make some of her own choices.

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

For real that's the best way