WHY ARE PEOPLE LIKE THIS????

I don't understand people....

[Hidden]

Not everyone is like that. Since you’re tired of worrying about what they think, why keep it up? Also, don’t call yourself a whore! Why would you even say that? That just gives others permission to say it. Find new people. New Year, new peeps!

[Blueruth]

try this thought experiment… how much time do you spend thinking about other people? That’s about how much time they spend on you. Humans are self absorbed. They really don’t have time to think mean thoughts about you because all their thoughts are focused on themselves.

[Afibflipper]

I feel your pain but it doesn't have to be this way, I agree with KellyKay - if you beat yourself up then others will see it as ok to do the same. They know by the way you speak about yourself that you are down on yourself and that's how and when if that's how they behave they'll take every opportunity to make you feel even worse. Nothing to do with you, they'd do that to anyone they can manipulate to make them feel better because they feel in control now - people who do this have an issue with themselves and and note happy yet probably won't ever admit it. They suck in followers who also have no confidence but think this bully is now their friend.

So how about this New Year you say to yourself, " ok that's it, they've had their fun at my expense and enough is enough" - often standing infant of a mirror and talking to yourself through it you can watch your own body language at the same time. Head up, shoulders back, and say " Im not going to allow them to do this to you any more" - First be your own friend, confident, ambassador etc. This will take time and is not an overnight fix but with constant practice you will feel that strength begin to rise. When in-between times they say stuff to you just glance a cursory look ( no emotion or grimace on your face - and as you look and let there own venom plash their own boots you think - OK finished - and carry on and don't give rise to them. They may try to keep this up as they'll be confused " what no back chat, no tears, no argument - and they will also look weaker to the followers they have as they are seeming to lose power.

So, lets try to change your thought process and turn your skin into a waterproof coating where the nastiness of others just rolls off and falls to the floor and doesn't stick to you.

January 1st is your calendar of strength building, day 1 then mountain is a huge climb but every step is one less than before to your own success - I have every confidence in you be strong 💪x

[Hidden in reply to Afibflipper]

I will try my very best and thank you for having confidence in me and when I tell people ok I don't care when someone says something rude to me I end up rubbing off my shoulders then a few hours later I end up balling my eyes out. I have been trying to become a less sensitive person for years now and every time I try I become even more sensitive. its hard i try and try and try and I get better and then I get worse

[Afibflipper in reply to Hidden]

Maybe you need some extra assistance - a CBT coach maybe - speak to your care provider - don’t struggle alone x

[Hidden in reply to Afibflipper]

I have a therapist I see him on tuesday he's off work on monday and I feel like if i worry him with this or vent to him about this he's gonna get annoyed and not wanna be my therapist. I annoy people all the time with my problems and they get mad and shit

[Arymretep]

good verse

Verse

[Hidden in reply to Arymretep]

true true