Feeling hopeless

[ashleybakerr01]

I feel like I'm unhelpable. No matter what, I just keep backpedaling and spiraling 😞. No matter how many times I've tried to get help, I seem to find for a week or so, then I go right back into this shit. I just miss who I was before all the trauma and everything 🤧

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi AB01.

Just want to let U know that in every journey there are setbacks. There are good days & bad days & there are hours that can be up & down too.

However take that as a sign as I do. I usually find that I need to slow down & revisit the point when I thought I got this & it slapped me down.

I understand that U want to be the old U & I'm truly sorry to say that trauma of any sort changes us & really does a number on us too.

So instead of beating urself up for not being the old U & start ur journey to find the new U & be gentle with her as its all new to her too. Maybe both of U can help each other reach the goal of the new U 2.0 . Also remember there are a lot of people here who will help on ur journey too.

I wish U love & light on ur journey.

[Itzallgood1 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Very well said. This is very true.

[DodgeDhanda in reply to Itzallgood1]

Hi IAG1.

Over the years I've found that essentially we are all on the same journey but in our own unique ways but the fact is things do change us & only when we accept it can the journey begin . Hope ur well.

[Itzallgood1 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

I am thank you. Hope you are well too.

[DodgeDhanda in reply to Itzallgood1]

Apart from the insomnia , my journey is in a great phase where I can control how my day is going to be & each day I practice my basics of addressing my aches & pains , acknowledging them & remind them on the day I got mission I need their help too & on the days where its really bad I be kind to myself & do nothing but rest & read, watch television or listen to audible to keep my mind busy whilst body rests . I've found a happy medium but I'm always looking to learn about my inner self too.

[Itzallgood1 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Do you take anything for your insomnia? I take a zolpidem er. I'd I don't take it I won't sleep at all. If I get 3-4 hours a nite I'm good. I'm suppose to get 8 hours with that pill and doctors figure I'm going to be immune to it someday.

[DodgeDhanda in reply to Itzallgood1]

Yes I do metrazine I think its called but a specialist has upped the dose & I will be on double within a fortnight. I've had sleep difficulties ever since I stopped working night after 20 years.

[Itzallgood1 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Sorry to hear that. You took the words out of my mouth to AB01 on this post. Thank you.🙂

[DodgeDhanda in reply to Itzallgood1]

It's the story of us all & how we must understand that what was is no longer so the journey to find the new is starts .

[Itzallgood1 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

TRUE...

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Thank you I'll try to look at it that way

[DodgeDhanda in reply to ashleybakerr01]

Please do & as U did today , when U feel stuck reach out & U will recieve some great support & encouragement . I know this as I've recieved that support myself .

Remember be kind to urself .

[Hb2003 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

good advice and insight 😄

[Itzallgood1 in reply to Hb2003]

Hi Hiba🙂. Hope you are doing well too!!

[Hb2003 in reply to Itzallgood1]

hi thanks i am doing ok i am having blood pressure issues but i will be fine 🙏

[Itzallgood1 in reply to Hb2003]

Are the bp issues from stress? I had to cut out salt and lose some weight to get mine down.

[Hb2003 in reply to Itzallgood1]

i do not know .

[Itzallgood1 in reply to Hb2003]

I hope you get it figured out

[b1b1b1 in reply to DodgeDhanda]

This is a lovely post. Having lost my husband, what you wrote applies very much to me too.

[DodgeDhanda in reply to b1b1b1]

Hi B1B1B1.

I'm so so sorry for ur loss & it's universal in a way as trauma of losing a loved one, accident, break up & anything else I've not mentioned that has caused trauma to anyone changes us all.

So we need to be kind to ourselves first then once we're full let that kindness overflow to ur family, loved ones & friends too.

Then we take that journey of learning about how trauma has affected us & those around us . But we can only take our journey to learn to be another us.

If a person has kids too the person taking that journey is a strong soul as they need to be on their journey & be present for their kids too .

One day life will start to make sense again & become clearer BUT it's then when we need to keep learning about ourselves everyday or we sometimes can slip backwards too.

Again I'm sorry for ur loss 🙏

[Weatherwoman in reply to b1b1b1]

I am sorry, too, for your loss. I am struggling now, and in A lot of pain emotionally & physically as I lost my Sig. Other about three weeks ago. It's SO hard --he was my Anchor, my Person, my love. I have had anxiety (Panic & OCD for years), and of course the loss & everything has affected my anxiety, and I am depressed, & feel lost.

Reading the posts helps me some. thanks

[FuxkRiley]

the mind is so use to how you feel now, that it doesn't seem like you can get out, but overtime and with enough encouragement, i feel like that can help a little bit. I still fall back into the "loop" when i try to get out of a hole. It's definetly hard but the best thing i've learned is just try to accept it to your best ability and find something to take your mind off it.