Not happy

[Mrjonezz]

I have been not happy with myself for most of my life and it's like I can't stop my mind from feeling like I'm not worth much of anything. It use to be easy to hide it but now it's hard and it's affecting my marriage and I'm just tired of being this way

[Hidden]

Hey! Just read your post. I’m not happy either but I used to be. “Hiding” is my specialty too but has proven to cause more anxiety/depression. Try to remember happier times you did experience and see if you can figure out what is now missing. I am not happy with the people I’m surrounded with any more and seem to find it harder to hide my unhappiness with them as time goes on. Maybe it’s time for a change … or some small baby steps of change. Keep it real and search your soul for some hard truths. I know that better days are ahead. Thinking of you 🙏

[Agora1]

Welcome to the support site Mrjoneszz. We're happy to have you here.

What's caused you to feel unworthy for so long? It must have been very difficult

for you to hide it. Have you ever seen a therapist who could have addressed the issue?

Unfortunately, unless we seek some answers to our problems, they just tend to get worse

and affect those around us as well. You aren't alone. We all have our journeys to share

which can help each other. I'm happy you took that first step in coming here. xx

[Hidden]

I have never been happy. I had a horrible life and I am old.

[designguy]

You could benefit from working with a good therapist if you aren't currently, to help you investigate why and how you developed poor-self-worth and poor-self-esteem and why you felt the need to hide your true self. There is also a lot of good info on youtube as well as books and programs about healing poor self-worth and learning how to love and accept yourself. A lot of us were never modeled or taught how to do this and were even punished and shamed for showing any signs of being proud of ourselves or trying to stand up for ourselves so we have to learn how to be the healthy parent to ourselves that we did not receive. With commitment, it is definitely possible to heal and get on with your life