Self hatred

[Userj29]

Everyday , all day , someone gives random comments about me , my body , my way of acting , just me as a whole , and it made me hate myself , how unattractive i am in anyone's eye , how im not concidered beautiful or feminine , how im so angry all the time and snap at people , they just don't realize that im just lonely , and im already hard on myself , i judge myself 24/7 so when someone judges me im like , just don't say that i already know it , saying that worsens the case , i am deprived of attention , of love and care , and no one is intrested to give them to me , even my own family

[Roxylox]

I sympathise. People comment about me too. I have learned to build an imaginary wall around myself that these comments just bounce off. Be kind to yourself, don't add to these comments. You are the only one who knows you.

[Uma_nalla]

U r not alone, who deals with thisEven I'm depressed but Ishiw people that I am happy

That's the way to lead life

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi UJ29.

I know it's hard to ignore but those that wish to attack U are not really worth bothering about.

As for self sabotaging, U probably hate on urself more than others ever can BUT Udo know ur all wrong too.

These negative forces that are other people, push them away , escape them , ignore their words & don't communicate with them either.

Now for all of us & this includes U too , stop hating urself & stop proving their point !!! Ur not everything that ur made to believe & that's the key believing , so if U can believe all these negatives about U means U have the capability to believe everything opposite to the negativity too.

However this is something only U can do , only U can make the changes U need & U are very capable of doing it. It all starts with U .

[God-sFavourite]

Hey there! Love and peace from me to you 😃❤🌸

We, women, have been structured that way. We have been nurtured and made to grow in an own world which is self-conscious. A low self-esteem, lack of confidence, unacceptance of one's own body and beauty, and many more words and emotions that i might not have written, all of these have been made an integral part of our upbringing. The ladies of our house have been through this so all of this has been passed upon from generations to generations.

I don't want to comment upon why they chose to accept and live with it as it was a different world back then. However, looking at today's world, things have changed a lot and with each passing moment, things are changing more, for good.

Nobody has the power to change anybody. An individual can be changed if and only he wants to. So expecting people to accept things that they haven't been taught, can be a difficult task. But yes, we can start that change within.

The most important task is to indulge in self-acceptance. It is difficult to start with because this is something we have not been taught. Something that we have to figure out ourselves and learn but trust me, once you take the stance that you want to do this, no-one has the power or ability to you aback from it except you!

I have been through this journey myself. It took me 6 years to master it to an extent that i can choose now, that when to answer back and when to ignore these comments. Still, I ain't perfect.

So remember, it is a slow process. Take one step at a time, in one day at a time. Give yourself some time to reciprocrate, introspect and analyse yourself. Once you do that, you will start accepting yourself and will also start to differentiate between people who do constructive criticism and destructive criticism.

Take care.