lonely

[Rangers15-]

Have wife and 21 and 24 year old. Retired with mental health breakdown , last 2 years really tough. I feel wife talks easier to daughter and sometimes son than I do. Concentration and focus has taken a bit also

[Blueruth]

Retired? I assume you went from a 40/hour week career(s) of at least 30 years? what are you filling your time with?

[Rangers15- in reply to Blueruth]

Retired because of mental health breakdown. Trying to find interests. Everything was about work. I am trying to read more, taking Orangetheory which is an intense 1 hr workout with treadmill, rowing machine , other aerobics. This Friday trying out intro class for Tai Chi to see if I like it. Go out with wife for lunches, beach periodically during summer. Problem is everything was about work so really don’t have any friends….lonely…. re

[Blueruth in reply to Rangers15-]

work has a goal. You get projects, results, accolades, promotions. Everything is about achieving something greater for whatever it is worth. Those are good things to do but they are kind of one and done. what about something more satisfying? Something like volunteer which might lead to a board position. Or art classes which could lead to enjoyable art shows. I went to a meditation thing and the guy teaching is a retired guy at least 70 who likes sharing what he knows and he in some sort of leadership position at the center. Go beyond the exercise classes and lunches.

[Rangers15-]

I have a jigsaw puzzle I am in the middle of but haven’t worked on it on a few weeks. I like to read but having trouble getting motivated

[Rangers15-]

not getting a promotion, just got really burnt out that had a triggering effect

[Rangers15-]

trying out a heavy exercise class called Orange Theory once or twice a week. Oldest one there so I do what I can’t. Also have introductory class in Tai Chao tomorrow. See how I like it, trying to find different things I can do to keep occupied and some exercise,

Feel I have not found my purpose so increased anxiety

[Rangers15-]

thanks. It’s a step hill to climb.

[Rangers15-]

I need to fill up my plate a bit more to take mind off anxiety/ depression. My wife has her FB friends and Twitter friends. I don’t have that to take up my time when we don’t go out together

Work was my social and professional life. It was taken away from under me

[Rangers15-]

trying to get some of my life back. Been rough 2 years

[Rangers15-]

I hear you. People don’t fully understand unless they have been in your shoes

[Rangers15-]

agreed.. signed up for a Tai Chi class to help with my anxiety. Hopefully lessons will help and o can cut down on all these medications