Hello all,
It still hurts. Even years later. Infidelity, the rejection and self-worthlessness that accompanies it. And to see her now, doing so well. Fancy house, nice neighborhood, hot young boyfriend.
I'm glad in a way. It benefits our daughter.
Still, to think that was it I holding her back from this success? Is she better off without me?
"Yes, of course," says my brain. "Obviously. If you were worth anything, she wouldn't have had other men, thrown you out, and built a new life."
hi and welcome! First of all, I'm sorry you're hurting. Secondly, what your brain is telling you is a classic lie. Maybe you can turn it around somehow? The point is you ARE worth something. Plus, why do you assume you're at fault? This is a classic depressive symptom -- beating ourselves up so badly to make it seem everything is our fault. I don't know you're story, but I DO know that it's not all your fault. Plus, she might not be doing as well as you think. People are good at putting on a smiling face for everyone.
If it helps you feel better, I was dating a girl for a while who ended up leaving me for another man. It was hard, and I've been thinking about it a lot recently. But you know what? The sun still rises. I've heard sometimes the best revenge is living a good life without her. Check back on this forum anytime for support.
Thank you for your welcome and kind words. The logical part of my brain realizes the truth, that it's not me. It's the constant battle with the other side, that says she was right to cheat and leave.
First Time Posting. Looking for Peace
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