toxic ex

[tbaxley02]

I was recently in this relationship and it was very on and off for a little over a year, he got physical with me many times, he was very manipulative and he gaslit me a lot, and if I said I didn’t want to do something ($ex) he would get upset and accuse me of not loving him and continue to push it until I just give in because I didn’t want to fight or because I was tired and wanted to get it over with idk. He used to make fake accounts to harass me on, he would pin me to the bed whenever I wanted to leave or he’d grab me and he has left marks. He also made horrible jokes about my self harm or the times I was assaulted. Once I put on a shirt and he pretended to swallow a bunch of pills because I wasn’t allowed to wear that shirt in public. He’s punched himself in the head when he gets mad and his family would attack me for it. Moral of the story he was horrible but I loved him. One day he told me he never loved me and wanted nothing to do with me and this was after I found out he was cheating on me. So I was sad and alone and I had just started working at this place he actually used to work at so all of my co workers were friends with him so I didn’t think anyone would believe me or even listen to me and I had no family or friends to go to at the time. But thankfully I was wrong. I broke down one day and they all listened and helped me. I eventually had to put a restraining order on him because he wouldn’t stop stalking me. But while everything was going on I started talking to another guy who happened to be my ex’s close friend and yes I knew that, and we just got closer and closer and you know how those things happen. Now they’re not friends and I just don’t know if I should feel guilty about it. I’m so sorry for the long post, I’ve just been so bottled up.

[Midori]

Don't feel guilty, but make sure their friendship is truly over.

You had a terrible relationship with the first man and you could have had him charged with multiple assaults and causing you harm.

It is nice you have this other man now, but make sure he's not also gaslighting you behind your back.

Take great care. I don't want to spoil your relationship if it is a good and true one, but stranger things have happened.

I'm Old, now, but I have had a relationship like the first one you describe. Didn't end well.

Cheers, Midori