feeling bad/sad/anxious

[Horselover54]

Hi guys. Bear with me because this is kind of a unique situation. I am heavily involved in showing horses. It’s my passion & my outlet. I’ve never been able to afford a really top notch horse. 4 years ago, I was able to purchase a young horse with really good breeding & a lot of potential. I raised her from a yearling & she has turned out to be a really wonderful personality. Unfortunately, it now appears that she is not going to reach the level that we had hoped. My trainer is advising that I sell her. I know he’s right, but I’ve poured four years of work, love, & dreams into her. I’m feeling really down & sad about the whole situation. Does anyone have any tips that I can use to get me over these negative feelings before they tip me over into a full-blown depression & anxiety spiral? I already feel like I want to go back to bed & pull the covers over my head

[101315]

What an awful choice to be presented .. i do not know the world of training and racing horses so I am not aware if making deals such as visitation would be acceptable.

[Midori]

I understand your feelings, but you have raised your mare to be the best she can be, an asset to whoever buys her, and you will be able to ask a good price.

Yes, it doesn't replace the feelings for your mare, but if you want to join the top flight, you will need to let her go in order to find the one who can help you achieve your dream. You may need to ride many horses in order to find The One who can do that.

Your mare would be wasted as a Pasture pal, let her go to another home with love.

You need to harden your heart a little.

I used to ride Sidesaddle, I was trained by a former president of the Sidesaddle Association, and still love to be around horses, even though I can no longer ride.

Cheers, Midori

[designguy]

That would be a really tough situation for me as I know it is for you. I would find it enormously difficult to let go of an animal that I was emotionally bonded to as it sounds like you are to your horse. I think I personally would try to find a way to keep her but I guess it comes down to deciding what your priority is with her. Is it possible that your trainer is wrong or acting prematurely, would it be worth getting another opinion.