Feeling overwhelmed with postpartum and infidelity and sometimes it seems like I won’t make it thru

[step6012]

hello everyone, I’m new here. I hope everyone is doing well today. Well my story is, I gave birth to a handsome fella on Aug 5th. On that day, I had a small anxiety attack n the hospital but I think it was due to the anesthesia wearing off. After that I was fine, excited to have my little one home. 10 days later, I find out my husband was having an affair . It seemed like everything just hit me like a ton of bricks, anxiety, depression. I have to still be in my husbands presence because we have a new baby and I am not emotionally stable enough to care for all 3 of our children alone right now. I don’t have family here since I relocated to his hometown when we married. I thought as the days go I would start to feel better but I keep crying, keep feeling sadness, even when it starts to get dark I feel like my anxiety starts to flare up. I pray, but I’m still not able to feel settled. I can’t sleep because of the nonstop thoughts n because of the babies sleep schedule. Some days I feel I can’t continue on but I think about my children and I choose to keep trying. I also thought about moving to where my family is(12hrs away) but the thought of taking my kids away from their father is there, and if I will regret leaving him once I’m gone. I’m not sure if what I’m feeling right now is jus postpartum or if it’s both that I’m dealing with but it’s weighing heavily on me and I’m not sure how i will continue on if it keeps getting worse. I’m scared to drink or smoke to ease the pain(which i use to do) but since I have a small baby I’m paranoid of what may happen. I’m scared to take any medication so Im just sitting waiting for my date with the therapist but it seems so far away

[Agora1]

First of all step6012, congratulations on your beautiful baby boy. Life sometimes presents us with a gift while taking away someone else

in our lives.

I think it is best for the sake of you and your 3 children to get yourself together

both physically and emotionally. Let your doctor know what you are going through

as well as the therapist when your appointment comes around.

Try not to drink or smoke for emotional pain relief....which would be but temporary,.

Maybe look into other methods of release from stress through Meditatation.

YouTube has always been my "go to" when looking for that extra help.

I'd also like to Welcome you to this caring and understanding support group.

I hope you find it like a "warm hug" when feeling so down and alone.

Once again congratulations xx

[step6012 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you 😊

[Balloffur2468]

Hey I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I think the best thing you can do is go to your family and get away from him. He did not take your feelings in to consideration when cheating. I'm sure it was more than once. He actively decided to do those things. Your family can help you so you get the sleep you need. Your kids will be fine. You don't want them to see you in the state you are either. Please consider leaving. He did it while you were carrying his child. I understand it's hard but you will not regret leaving someone who is capable of doing these things.

[step6012 in reply to Balloffur2468]

Thank you 😊

[step6012]

Thank you 😊

[Blueruth]

You are going through a lot. This is a support group specifically for women in your situation. Even if you aren’t sure about post partum they can help you figure it out. It is international. postpartum.net/get-help/hel...

[step6012 in reply to Blueruth]

Thank you 😊

[b1b1b1]

Has your husband stopped the relationship and has he apologized. You might want to consider couples therapy. Is it possible that your mother or another family member could come and help you out for a few weeks? I would not make a hasty decision, but rather give your body a chance to heal, begin therapy and take an antidepressant. After some time has passed you can then consider what you want to do about your marriage. There are a lot of considerations, including financial ones, custody, visitation , etc.,etc. I think things will be clearer in your mind in a few months. x

[catsrock]

I am so sorry - this is A LOT. Can you get in to see your primary doctor sooner to talk about what's going on? There are also tons of postpartum resources online as other people have mentioned here. Anyone closer who can help you out? Or even someone you could hire short-term (I use to be a postpartum doula and help people out when they had a new baby)? I hope you can some relief soon.