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He knows what’s going on yet I still feel I need to put on a smile and act like I’m good when I’m not. Then he finally says ‘I can this is getting to you’ and gets all flustered, then I feel like I did something bad upsetting him. I tell him ‘you know what’s going on - please don’t get upset with me, I’M TRYING!

Does this sound familiar?

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Adamj

I think it’s normal for partners and family members to get frustrated because they don’t understand how we feel and sometimes the symptoms can be very scary and such. I’ve tired explaining to my mom and girlfriend and other family members and they really don’t understand then get frustrated with me when they don’t know how to help

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Needtovent in reply toAdamj

You are wise beyond your years!

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Tcbabe

Sounds like you are really wanting to reach out to him but perhaps you feel that you can’t talk about how you are really feeling . It would be nice to get that support so you can just vent about how your really feeling and how this could be helpful .

Instead as your struggling and have to worry about having him get upset over how your needing him to a least listen and not feel anything but thankful.

I can relate its a struggle to maintain a happy face but keep doing it anyway soon it will feel natural.

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Needtovent in reply toTcbabe

Thanks. I just wish he wouldn’t get so upset. It’s like just another hurdle with what I’m going through. I tell him that too. I guess it’s him feeling helpless.

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Dolphin14

It's so hard. Mental illness is so hard for some people to grasp if they haven't been through it. If your leg was broken it would be a whole different story

I did the whole actress thing. Eventually I couldn't keep it up and I was walking around the house crying all the time.

At that point I didn't care. I am who I am and this is my story and that's that.

It's frustrating. I understand your situation 100%

🐬

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AnxiousSilver

"Does this sound familiar?"

Here.. I'm gonna come right out and say it. It's hard for support people to understand "us".

If I never went through this, I wouldn't fully understand what "all of this is like".

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It is a very humbling experience. (plain and simple)

You take the cockiest person (I know because I used to be that person way back in the day) and give them this, and especially for how long that I've had this (over 20 years), it will change your life.

My parents to this day still don't really get it. (they understand physical issues, but mental, not as much)

& My ex of 5 years decided that she couldn't do it. Which I'm not bitter, because I'd rather have a mutual break-up before getting married, than a messy divorce afterwards.

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hypercat54

I am amazed here at how many of you who told your parents about your struggles. That's the last thing I would ever have done. My dad didn't do emotions and my mother would have just used it as a stick to beat me with. They are both gone now.

I told my 3 sisters around 8 years ago. The eldest said yes I understand but just wittered on endlessly about herself. My middle sister looked embarrassed and said nothing.

The worst was my youngest one who said (in a pure mum voice laden with surprise and contempt) 'What have YOU got to be depressed about'?

I never mentioned it to any of them since and none of them have said anything to me either. Hopeless. I rely on friends and this site.

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compasnet

IMHO, I think you deserve more compassion, empathy, and caring.

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Needtovent in reply tocompasnet

Thank you. I come here for empathy because that is difficult for anyone who hasn’t experienced anxiety beyond having a stressful day, say.

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compasnet in reply toNeedtovent

y. w.

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Lve2dance

I am with you on that.. I'm in therapy which helps but my mom thinks I'm "fixed" and can't ever have any genuine emotion. She has her moments but it's ok.. People here understand 😊

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Slothmade

I completely understand. It's like walking on eggshells.

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