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had to call an ambulance for my mom at 12 am cause her breathing was terrible. She was wheezing pretty badly. She has asthma and wasn't answering my questions to well. So I made the call. Her oxygen levels were around 87. The paramedics asked her if she wanted to the hospital or do a treatment at home. She opted for the treatment at home.

But the paramedic didn't like how she was still breathing despite the nebulizer treatment. So they took her to the hospital. I could have gone with her but my anxiety is still bad. I feel a sense of shame because I didn't go with her. I guess in some respect I should feel some sort of pride that I held it together . Because I did get frightened and I felt really anxious. I thought I too was going to have a panic attack or an asthma attack. My mom and I both suffer from asthma. But hearse is a lot worse than mine.

It also scared me cuz it made me think that this may be my future someday. And I don't want to be. I don't want to be suffering from diabetes and asthma

It feels me full of dread but this may be a possibility. But I know that this is just anxiety talking. The real test will be when my fiance leaves this morning for work and I'll be here left alone. I'm afraid to be alone. Any support is welcome. I'm not a very religious.person. in fact I'm agnostic. Yeah I know the poor man's atheist or procrastinating atheist. But my mom is a Catholic. So if you're to pray 🙏🏽 for her that is cool. Or send positive,vibes thoughts or light a 🕯️ that's fine witout

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Hey CG , I'm sending so much love & light to momma & tell her when you see her , she is needed at home & is to get better & not to be anxious or upset either.

I hope ur holding up & I'm not gonna patronise u by saying everything will be fine when ur not sure urself. What I will tell u is that she is in the correct place .

Moving forward u did a bloody good job just keeping ur self together & to get things done for momma & don't forget this & I'm very proud of U .

If U saw urself living as momma does in ur future then its up to you to change the path ur walking on & do things differently. Remember when momma was young gyms & health foods & supplements weren't a thing .

Now what are U planning for momma moving forward ? Is she allowed to get a health assistant that would come by daily to see how she doing or anything like that ?

Please give me an update how momma is doing & give her a hug from me & ask her to get better

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CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to DodgeDhanda

Well she called me this morning and she has pneumonia. So she's probably going to stay at the hospital for several days. She video called me and they have her in a facemask like the kind you wear when you are on a CPAP machine. But she sounded a lot better!

I did good thru the night. I didn't cry when my fiancé left for work and I got a little bit of sleep.

Yeah those things in the 60-70s weren't popular. Plus around that time smoking was. But I was able to make her quit when I was 5yrs old so that was some 30yrs ago.

Now we'll have to see if we need to find her a new doctor that will give her a referral to go a specialist so maybe that specialist get some type of breathing machine to help her out.

She isn't completely helpless. So I'll be her caregiver for the time being. But she can get a care giver if she wanted to. She just chooses not to. Really she needs a better house then this one. It's too small, needs rewiring and frankly needs everything remodeled. But she loves this house cause it's her dad's house. She's attached to it for sentimental reasons.

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DodgeDhanda in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL

Fantastic news thank you for that firstly. I did fear the worst if I'm honest as you mentioned oxygen being low.

Also u made a spelling faux pas. U wrote HEARSE & not HER'S. in ur original post.

So if momma's current doctor isn't giving momma the correct health care then yes find a new one as I feel her current one is holding onto money that is to be used for patients & another specialist is a great idea to get momma the help she needs.

As for the house any way of extending it to put in things that makes mommas life easier. Is it a bungalow or 2 storey house ? I can understand her attachment to the house but memories are in our minds & hearts so no one can ever snatch them away from her. But look at extending the home & u & fiancé learn to build from u tube lol it could be like a Laurel & Hardy movie .

Hopefully things are getting better which they are as momma already face timing u to say whats going on girl x

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CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to DodgeDhanda

Yeah looking for a better doctor. Our home is a bungalow 846sq ft. I don't know what that is in metric. But it's tiny. If I could I would knock down this house and rebuilt it for elderly in mind that way I can move my grandmother in. I got to talk to her again today. They gave her a pneumonia shot 💉 and nebulizer. She is in a shared room but right now she has the room to herself. But the food is pretty good.

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DodgeDhanda in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL

Food being good is very important as it gives the patient a boost & helps in healing & the more good vibes the faster she will be better.

As for the house , it is a pity its not big enough to get ur grandma in there too. Or maybe that's the way momma likes it lol 😆

It's great momma is on the mend & I reckon home by weekend .

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CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to DodgeDhanda

Yeah they are thinking of letting her go Friday or Saturday. We shall see what happens 🙂

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Hello CG Sorry about your moms health. You stayed strong through out. 🙏🙏🙏

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CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to Blue_81

I did well today. I did get a little anxious 😰 started to get anxious felt like I couldn't breathe while they worked on my mom. But I took control of my breathing. It got better when I talked about it with you guys and my fiance and sister.

As for mom, she's doing well. She has pneumonia but she sounds a lot better.

Hi CG, Im so glad to hear your Mom is doing much better and she is going home this weekend. Please take good care of yourself because she’s going to need your assistance when she’s home. You are such a good daughter and please don’t beat yourself up with having anxiety to go in. You made the call, she got the help and it’s important she will have you around when she’s home.

Hope everything will go well if not better. Best wishes.

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I have to say that is my biggest vice. Is I beat myself up a lot. And I know I should be a lot kinder to myself since I speak to myself the most. I'm working on it. Thank you for the kind words. Yes I managed to keep it together while they worked on my mother. She should be home soon. She sounds a lot better. I wish I could do a lot more for her. And I'm trying to. I know I can't get back the old me. But maybe I can improve me enough where she don't have to worry that her daughter still struggling with anxiety. I've beated once and I'll do it again. And I always look after my mama. Since I'm the only one here. I know my other sister IG would take care of her if she could but she lives in another state. JG on the other hand well. JG's out doing her thing. It's really kind of a shame cuz both live in the same city but one feels a sense of entitlement and the other feels a sense of duty. My mother has given me everything, the least I could do is take care of her.

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