And i don't know whether it's the mental making me bad physically or the physical making me bad mentally. I'm just so scared. I'm not okay both mentally and physically and scared. My doctor is in my home town, i can't go to the ER after the Last time and since i don't have a real sympthom. I feel like a fever but my termometer, which i think is broken, isn't showing high temperature. I'm just trying to rest and take the meds i have here. Not much money here. If it's mental, going back home would make it worse, If physical, i would probably have to go. This desision is making me sick. 2 days ago i told myself i will stop caring and worrying but well there are 2 options- either i failled or my body is so used to stress that it's inventing new one, and my sickness because i have a deep trauma with sickness, to replace the missing worry. Or it's just hot here, i'm stressed from exams and traumatized. Or have a flu. Either way i'm scared and confused, alonedon't know what to do, stressing about my choice, and unwell physically and mentally.
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I don't feel well
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sooooo kay .....everybody gets that way esp alone....why having a partner nice to have whether in town or the woods....
did u hear taht or was i imagining it or .......ahhh tht happens whenanyoen is alone......not saying ur imagiing things not saying that ....but much easier for people to cope with friend.......we all feel more secure and able to take a deep breath......taking goode care dringthis stess i improant..ur unwinding rom shcool ...lots stress ane unknowns under5ainly ........geting rest and break is good idea.......u have lots supor5 and friends here.........we all been ther.....tough times ull get through......have lots conifidencein u ...
call anytime
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Thanks cause i feel like i'm all alone
how do i say this.....thats the foundational statement of his group.....we all started that way.......something abour our society...lousy listenrs or something...lots here much wiser....
this is the village .....the circle.....we listen and help each other
no cheifs......
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Amen to that.
Mental , stress, makes physical worse! And goes BOTH ways, my dear! I’m going thru, EXACT same AS YOU are! I am sick from stress! From being alone, ! And no dr, to help! Severe depression I was diagnosed with, plus severe anxiety, PTSK and Traumatized! Along came Pandemic, War, INFLATION thats has affected most people, Globally! Hospitals overwhelmed! Idk either, what we can do, which way to turn, but I am trying. To Hold on, so have you tried any relaxing ,calming music, & lay down, ? I am aware relaxing is very difficult for most of us, that feel like us, BUT it’s worth trying when you lay down,anytime! Dep breaths, so,e times helps?
I'm just trying to breathe. I feel like i will fall apart. The world is falling apart. Pandemics, wars, my mental issues. It's too much and it's crashing on me and i scream for help and feel so helpless and alone and like drs can't do anything. Like they do but it's not enough and this hurts
we care we worry and then we take care of our selves to take care of others.....first he rescuer has to be healthy strong balanced life....then......we can help others......thats my counsel.....and experine...ur life of course....
i cant stop whats out of my control but i can take are of hose clsoest to me and get ready should anyting go south.....
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Yeah. I just have nobody to take care of me rn. I feel so powerless
ooooooh boy...u have a herd of elelphant load o ur p;late.......
ten billin grouop hugs from all here........thankfu the re here for u
Ow man! I’m definitely part of this group Kitty-Cat & Real-Me. Ow Know exactly how you feel! I’m on the same boat right now!I’m struggling
Yeah, i feel Absolutely inadequate. This boat feels like Noah's arc
if i were in ur shoes...advice
options
potential plans
goal
recommendations
etc.
I’m with you Real_Me! I’m 30 minutes away from seeing my psychiatrist. I have no clue what he’s going to tell me and what Meds he’s going to put me on! I’m super scared of continuing to feel as bad as I do and I’m also terrified to feel worst! In other words, if the Meds I take start to make me feel even worst! I’m scared of everything! I’m a 46 year old man with 2 kids and I’m scared of life, I’m scared of feeing sick, I’m scared of dying… I’m a real mess!
I'm scared too. Dad's your Age and is scared too. I guess we're all scared. Talk to your doc and good luck
Thank you. I wish I had a Dad or that my Mom was alive right now
there are mentors here and at colleges...not saying its easy....any role models? ever built an ins;piration board? hobbies passions intersts?
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Firstable than you for your answers. And no, we don't have mentors and no role models. I'm just wandering lost, being a social disaster 😅
Hi u r not alone in this feeling I also had this so, I
I just kept my favourite band songs and started singing and dancing and when I stopped suddenly everything was coming back my thoughts like so I just took my book when moving my body and song with a lesser volume tried to study and hum. it was a really slow and dumb thing but atleast I had progress with study and got distracted too.
But u should be really careful tho another time when I tried this I just ended up binging another series rgt before exam and no sleep and nil mind flunked it yet had a great time tho it was so not good.
I don't know if this method will soothe you but doesn't hurt to try , if u can rather have other options to handle stress then u shuld leave this message.
But exercise definitely helps...
But ask this question how important is this exam to you What happens is u don't do or do it well
Why r you stressed out
How can u get pass marks first and second step to 75 and then next step??
Break it down 😜 have fun make jokes or stories on the subject. U can remember easily..
Hope this helps
You are not alone. I know you have a very legitimate feeling but I can tell you that I, as well as many people here, share that feeling also. I feel incredibly alone. You know where my mom lives? 4 houses up the street. We haven’t spoken in 3 years. My two oldest kids live their own adult lives & being military, they have a certain mindset that doesn’t include me. I am pro military. It’s honorable and I’m proud of them but it changed them and one hasn’t spoken to me in 5 years, the other in 1 year. We were so close their entire lives and it pains me greatly. My father lives 3 minutes from me. You know when he last answered a call or had ANY interaction with my two youngest kids? 5 years. I have my best friend who lives close by but she works out of state so her time is very limited. I have my two youngest kids, (teenagers), a dog & 2 cats. I turned 50 recently. I’m divorced (it was a physically & emotionally abusive marriage, I was lucky to get myself & my kids out alive.) I’ve had to restart an entire life at 40. That’s when my health deteriorated drastically. My youngest was dx’d with a genetic disease & I was found to have it as well & that I gave it to her. It’s called Noonan’s syndrome & affects nearly every part of the body. I also nearly died in January of 2021. After months of symptoms that were discounted as “just anxiety” I ended up in the ER & told I had 13 blood clots in my right lung, 5 in my left lung, a DVT, a superficial clot in the same DVT leg, and so many clots floating under my heart they couldn’t even count them all. I was told to “make a plan for my kids future” because it was unlikely I would survive the night. Never have I been so scared in my life. Called my family on the urging of the doctors & my mother said I was on my own & hung up, my father listened and just hung up, my older sons refused to answer their phones. I have stage 4 osteoarthritis & both knees need replaced but I can’t get cleared due to the unprovoked clots. Last year I had 5 stress fractures in my right foot, and a month ago I ended up with something called a Lisfranc fracture and dislocation in my left foot. A week ago k broke my ankle, same foot. I can’t have a cast because of the concerns of clots. I have a medication resistant anxiety & panic disorder, depression unresponsive to a large degree to most meds we’ve tried. I am in constant fear, despite being on blood thinners for life now, that I will die at any moment. So believe me, I understand where you are coming from in every direction. Please don’t feel alone, I know it’s hard, but I get it. I really do & so do most people here. Don’t be afraid to talk we care.
Wow ! We all have problems, some much more serious then other’s. I don’t think real_me was looking for a breakdown of your life. Just some understanding from someone and some helpful advice.
Wow! I’ve found a lot of people here wanting to hear about other’s circumstances, so they don’t feel so bleak about their own. And also helping or sharing with someone, is that for you to decide? A breakdown of my life?” Here? Really? That’s no ok to you? So sorry I opened my mouth. I will make sure to NEVER do that again. In fact, thank you, I probably won’t ever come back here. In months and months you are the only person to make me feel that way straight out with exact words. Thanks so much. Goodbye.
I hope you don’t stop coming to our support group because of one persons harsh comment. There are a lot of nice helpful people in this group. Who understands better then we who have it also. Most of us are good listeners. Give us another chance.
Honestly Dragonfly_50 I am dying and there is nothing that can be done. I am also Bipolar. Pull yourself out of your pity party ! Seriously !! A long laundry list of your problems is really not helpful to anyone.
It is difficult to be alone and facing unknown health situations. As mentioned above try some anxiety relieving exercises and try to get your mind busy with some other hobby’s or activities that you might enjoy. I find journaling helpful as well. I wish you the best !
Stress will make you feel unwell. Try to find things to take your mind off of your symptoms and tell yourself “ I’m ok”… as long as you have been checked out medically. Exercise, deep breathing, meditation, yoga, praying, reading, watching a funny movie, etc… whatever brings you peace. It’s time for you to do selfcare and slow your roll. Find your peace. Good luck! You can do this
We are here for you 💋.. I was with someone last night I care about.. Super sweet but I felt the same way you are.. Feel free to message me at any time off the forum.
Thanks, hope you're feeling better now
💋.. Sweet thanks I am.. Every day is also a work in progress.. I have to remind myself not to be hard on myself if I'm not perfect in my happiness all the time.
So sorry to hear of your suffering. I have read that fear underlies all our illnesses. We usually fear because we don't feel loved. Well you are loved! Even if our parents were unable to love us properly ( I came from a dysfunctional drunken home also) God's love is always present.🥰Ask God for guidance on what to do. When you feel peace about it you'll know you made the right one. In the meantime I will be praying for a speedy recovery for you.🙏 Hugs!🤗
It’s a vicious cycle isn’t it? I feel for you. Hang in there dear.
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It is indeed. Trying to. Thanks