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Ive been struggling with anxiety and depression lately and I dont have anyone to talk too so the loneliness feeling starts to come back too.

I take a couple medicines for it but they don’t seem to work. I take my own advice and try to re-direct my thoughts or go for a jog and although it helps, I find it very hard to ‘feel better’ right after. I also have bern having problems at work so when I think I start to feel better something comes in and brings me back down.

All I really want is a friend, some understanding kind support. Im an introverted person and lack self confidence so making and keeping friendships have been very, very hard for me. I don’t have family I can talk too and the few i have aren’t supportive anymore.

I hope anyone reading this is having a good day. Id appreciate a kind word or two just to get through today.

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I would really like someone that I could talk with also. I would be happy to talk to you if you are interested?

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jonnylongton in reply to 1island

1island, i am in the same boat, and feel i just need someone to talk to , a nice sincere friend, i have no one . If you would like to talk i would like that and please feel free to let me know as i dont want to intrude . sending all my love and sincere best wishes to you

I do not know where you are, but here in England we have different societies. they call people who are lonely. I myself have met several people over the phone, most of them say they like me to keep calling. Look on the internet or ask at the local library, you say you work, when I worked I had lots of friends. Arrange a few nights out, pictures, pub, good luck anyway.

I to am in England . Could you please explain where you say they have different societies who call people who are lonely. I do not work sorry if i gave that impression. I have disc degeneration , all the discs in my spine have collasped and i suffer arthritis the pain is unbearable so im stuck at home. I also have underlying illness's which include Pernicious Anemia, Sleep Aponea, Diabetes, Anxiety and Depression, and just been diagnosed with Myasthenia Gravis , it is a muscle wasting illness, which also causes Fatigue (so bad some days you cant get out of bed) Jaw control, when you havent the strength to chew a jelly baby , and you can choke from it , dropping eyelids where you lose control and your eyes close on there own you get double vision, and it can kill you . These are just some of the other things i am trying to deal with at the same time San Ray. All the above have something neurogolical associated with them and that is why i my head cannot cope at the moment. I cannot get out sadly due to my illness's i cant even walk my dogs no more. I have no contact with the outside world, i only have a daughter left in my family as all my blood family, mum, dad, nan, bother have all passed away at young ages , i had to get over losing them all within 3 years of each other and that pain has never left, so when i met my narc i thought id found my soulmate and poured all my love in her and she did return i found someone who id always been looking for, now she has gone ive lost everything. I just would love a companion a good friend so we could be there to chat nothing else, but i dont know how go about this. So please i ask of you to spare a little time to just explain different societies . Thank you so much, sending my love and best wishes

The one I belong to is "smile" but I do not know if they are anywhere else. Age Concern is nationwide I think. We have people called social prescribers who refer people to us. Some people I have met, some I just speak on the phone. If you go to or talk to your Doctor ask about social prescribers. Other than that churches can help people like you. I hope you find someway of communicating and becoming part of society. Good luck to you friend.

thank you so much for your help san_ray70. I have never had such a bad time as im having now , if i went into full detail you would understand how much im going through, and it is just getting to much to bear. I need help badly, and i will look into those you have mentioned, i hope i find some kind of solace. thank you again and i appreciate it so much

San_ray70 I live in Los Angeles and I'm introverted it's not easy for me to walk up to people and socialize. My work situation is the main reason I have a lot of anxiety, I speak up for myself at work and people don't like that. We just had a holiday this past Monday, and instead of me either having the day off or working in the morning (per union rules) my manager had me work instead of the newer people and I spoke up so now the newer people, and my manager don't really like me. They feel like I'm a 'snitch' because they want to get away with things like that, but I'm quick to defend myself and they don't like that. SO, in short lol there's no going to socialize with coworkers option for me. I appreciate the suggestion though, and there aren't any numbers like the ones in England to call as there's a lot of scams going on over here so people aren't quick to give out their number to strangers. I come here for support because it's been a great place to find it from what I've experienced.

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MoonDreaming in reply to 1island

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, I had to check out because I was not doing well when I wrote this post so I'm trying to get back to everyone now that I'm doing a bit better.

I hope you are doing ok today, and thank you of replying. I'll send you a message on here in a minute.

((hugs)) hang in there. You're not alone in this. I can totally relate. Feel free to message me if you want. Even if it's just to vent. I know it helps sometimes.

I love your name and if you need a friend to chat with you can hit me up in my DMs 🙂

I hope you are having a better day. I don't always check messages here. I'm struggling today and my psychiatrist retired. I have called every dr in my area that takes my insurance. No one is taking new patients

Hi, Just a thought, do you have an option of a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner? They can prescribe medication, usually under their supervising doctor.

Thank you! I didn't think of that.

Of course!

I see a nurse practitioner!!! She’s just the same as my old psychiatrist! Good luck

I think my NP is better than my previous psychiatrist!

Hi, I'm happy to talk as well. I think we can learn from each other by being supportive.

Hi Iam here too for anyone needing to talk or a friend I Also struggle everyday

Hey MoonDreaming. I hear you. sometimes the walk/jog doesn't quite lift me uptake way i'd like it to, too and going to bed feels much better but i am proud of you for trying and for reaching out on here for someone to talk to. Here if you need a pal

I'm really sorry you're going through such a difficult moment. Feeling alone and like no one understands you it's such a strong, harmful feeling. I know it might be really hard not only open up to someone but also being understood and find some comfort in others that might never been in the same situation. Maybe is not much to you at the moment, but i think we're lucky to at least have this place to express ourselves, to let out what we have in our hearts and minds and to find people willing to listen to us. Hope everything will get better for you really soon, I think expressing yourself and trying to help yourself is already a huge step (not a lot if people are willing to do that). Hope what I wrote makes sense to you.

Hi Random_Girl!

Yes I am very thankful for this place, it's the place I come too each time I'm struggling. I'm feeling a bit better, but I always do need a friend to talk too and I agree, it does help to write it out and get supportive responses, that's why I like coming here and yes what you said makes sense to me, thank you so much for taking the time to respond and again, I'm sorry it took me so long to respond.

Hi moondreaming, im so sorry to hear the situation you are in and i send you alll my sincere love and special thoughts. i can relate so much to your post as im in the exact same position, i am sufering so bad at the moment and the lonliness is sending me deeper into a depression. i have no one to talk to and not long ago i split from a narcissistic relationship where i was the abused and that is so hard to deal with . i was in hospital not long ago and very nearly died from various viruses i had hours to live but somehow came out of ti but ive not ben right since. i too have no family as all have passed. i really need a kind hearted friend just to talk to instead of being stuck on my own with these terrible thoughts goign through my head . take care and im thinking of you

If you need someone to hear you out my DMs are open. Keep posting here. Look at how many people responded.

You can always message me!!! Depression and anxiety really suck!!! It won’t last forever!! Jogging is helpful!!! If you want to message me to chat that would be great!!! I hope you have a good day!!!

I completely understand. I thought I would share this with you. I just read it and it makes sense.

God's Prescription for a Healthy Life

By Rick Warren — 05/20/2022

“Anyone who is joined to Christ is a new being; the old is gone, the new has come."

2 Corinthians 5:17 (GNT)

We learned yesterday that, ultimately, your identity is based on your choices. Here are five winning choices you can make that will help determine your destiny.

1. You can choose to get healthier. Instead of bemoaning the fact that you don’t have an Olympic body, find ways to increase your energy, lower your stress, get more sleep, and have more power. Psalm 119:73 says, “Your hands made me and formed me; give me understanding to learn your commands” (NIV). Improving the controllable factors in your life helps you reduce the impact of the uncontrollable factors.

2. You can choose to deepen relationships. The fear of rejection prevents connection, and the only way to get rid of fear is to do the thing you fear the most. Learn communication skills, replace bad relationships, and reach out and risk connecting with someone. “Let love be your highest goal!” (1 Corinthians 14:1 NLT).

3. You can choose to trust God, no matter what happens. “I will always thank the Lord; I will never stop praising him” (Psalm 34:1 GNT). Work to get to the point in your life where you can say, “I praise the Lord, no matter what happens.” That is a confidence that you won’t find anywhere in Hollywood, on Capitol Hill, or on Wall Street. That is a confidence built on a relationship with God!

4. You can choose what you think about. Throughout the 20th century, scientists believed the adult brain could not be changed. When the 2002 Nobel Peace Prize winner proved that you can rewire your brain, science finally caught up to the Bible: “Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think” (Romans 12:2 NLT). Your self is created by your memories, and your memories are created by your mental habits. Feed your brain with the truth of God’s Word.

5. You can choose Jesus as your Savior. I’m not just talking about Jesus saving you from your sins. I’m talking about letting Jesus be your Savior every day. Letting Jesus save you gives you the power to follow through on the choices you make. The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Anyone who is joined to Christ is a new being; the old is gone, the new has come” (GNT).

You get to choose how much God blesses your life. It is never too late to change. When you make these five winning choices, God gives you a winning hand.

If you’re ready to start making better choices, pray this prayer today: “Dear God, there are some things you’ve dealt me and life has dealt me and others have dealt me that I don’t like. But I thank you that you made me in your image and that I can make choices. Today, in your power and your strength, I choose to get healthier. I choose to do the things that will give me more energy and a healthier mind, body, and emotions. Lord, I choose to build healthy relationships. I’m scared to death, but I’m going to risk building new, healthy connections. I want love to be my highest goal; I want my life to be built on love.

“God, I choose to trust you, regardless of the circumstances. I will praise you, no matter what happens! I will trust that every detail of my life is being worked out for good. Lord, I choose what I will think about—no more junk. Help me to fill my life with positive memories and the Word of truth. Most of all, Jesus, I choose you as my Savior. I need your salvation, but I also need you to save me from myself. I need you to help me rewire my body, my heart, my mind, and my relationships so that the rest of my life is the best of my life. In Jesus’ name. Amen.”

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Survivor1687 in reply to lfallis

I also enjoy pastor Rick's motivational teachings/speakings and sermons. He and his wife lost their son to suicide and they both continue to help alot of people that suffer from mental health issues, addiction, incarceration, parents who've lost children... ect. He's just a really down to earth guy who speaks in a way that reaches people. 💜

I totally agree. I’ve learned a lot from his daily devotional. Just what I need to hear for the day.

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Survivor1687 in reply to lfallis

Dr David Jeremiah is really good too.

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lfallis in reply to Survivor1687

I think my husband listens to him .

Big hugs to you and everyone who are not feeling to good at the moment. I would love to hear from you and anyone who needs someone to chat to.

I truly understand your problems. I too get along ok until I'm left alone with just my thoughts. I have dealt with this for many years and it feeds my depression. I talk sometimes to friends but I don't want to bother them too much or they will avoid me. I am mainly that person that hides it a lot of the time until something triggers the pain I feel and it all comes out. Then I have to reign it back in so I won't be a bore. I have a friend that has numerous ailments that complains a lot about it most of the time and I think that's how I am and I don't want to have them feel I'm a lost cause. I need an outlet. I even talk to my cat to get some relief from it. I'm not nuts but I would talk to a gold fish if I thought it might help me. We all need an outlet. I tell everyone I listen without judgement and care without ceasing. I'm here if you need me.

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Weatherwoman in reply to Jorja70

Gee, I sure could relate to what you wrote. I "talk" to the walls as I have no one I can talk to about how I really feel a lot of the time. I do have several friends which I talk to often; but, like you stated I don't want to bore them, or depress them with my physical & mental pain. Same with my family -- I usually sound pretty good & I make sure that I do even tho. I am hurting inside. Yeah, I have reasons to feel badly being a caregiver for my sig. other has taken a toll on me. Am dealing with his health issues & mine; but, I feel No one likes to hear all this...I have a therapist that I talk to approx. every three weeks (all my insurance pays for), but I think if he & most therapists weren't being paid, they would Not want to hear me, either. I have a lot of anxiety, fears, etc. (sometimes depressed). So glad for this site as there is So much understanding & Real listening, and good feedback. Wishing us all better days.

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Jorja70 in reply to Weatherwoman

My nearest relative is about 50 miles from me. It is my son and he would do anything for me but listen to what I get depressed about. He says I just need to get the negative things out of my life. He just doesn't understand it's not quite that easy. Those and other negative things have been my constant companion for over 50 years. When I've about to win the battle of one thing, another one happens each time. I have so many on the "back burner" that each one shows up. But a lot (for the past 20 years) has been mainly about his sister and he refuses to talk about it with me. All he says is "She refuses to face her on problems and she lashes out at you so don't let her". He said she use to call him and "bad-mouth" me and he told her if she was only going to call him to say bad things about me, then don't call him. So they haven't spoke for almost 20 years. So I can't talk to him. I've told him about some of it and he changes the subject. I am left to my on devices on dealing with it. The only "cheap" therapist around me is $90 a session. So I'm alone in this. One will take me on for $40 a session but only after I make them my primary Dr. I really don't want to do that. And why can they offer it for $40 if I do that and not do it if I don't? They are in it for the money, not to help ME! I have the money to pay but I just don't like the way that sounds. Again maybe I am over thinking but something just doesn't seem right about that. For a lot of years I borrowed from Peter to pay Paul and I'm fine now. But who knows when some catastrophe may happen and I need a fall back. I live in a vicious cycle. But listening doesn't cost one red cent. I will do that.

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Weatherwoman in reply to Jorja70

Get it! I feel like "my mind is a dangerous neighborhood!" Yeah, if one bad, or negative things goes away, then another pops up! Self help books are cheap, and find one that you can relate to & "speaks" to you! Perhaps, a support group (some are free) on Zoom.com --can go shopping around for a group that fits your needs. Your Son sounds like a good person; but, it seems he is not able to Listen & understand. I do suppose there are a lot of family "stuff" re. his Sister, and perhaps, he needs to work that out for himself. Guess, we have to depend on the generosity of strangers to Listen like on this site, and other mental health sites!

Hi there, I totally understand what you're going through.

Hi there. I totally understand what you're going through. When I started my medicine, I was on an emotional roller-coaster; My doctor finally found the right combo. Not all days are perfect, but a little more manageable than before.. So, I have psychologist and a psychiatrist. I have my baby sister, that I can run and talk, too sometimes.. I also do prayers and journaling. Both help me to release the pain inside. Journaling helps keep track of my moods and what was happened during that day. I am introvert like. you. I have trouble talking with people. I rathe be at home than out of the house. If you want to message me you can . I'm just not too sure how it woks here. Hang in thre, okay? Each day will always brings a beautiful new Day. I will keep you in my thoughts and my prayers. Sending hope and encouragement.

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