Why do I have to suffer? Why does God turn his back on us who are suffering and allow the Devil take his place? Why does God's plan have to be this? Why is my life full of despair? Why? Why? Why?
Why? Why? Why?: Why do I have to suffer... - Anxiety and Depre...
Why? Why? Why?
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i don't understand suffering. i have never been angry at God but a lot of times i don't think he likes me. i wish you could feel rage.fondly,
bobby
yeah, I do too.
i still can't find your poems. rats somebody wrote that the more you ask for help from God the more he gives it i just started trying. i never did before
Umm... maybe try going to my page?
Thanks. Your support is very helpful!
Hi there im sorry you are feeling as you are God hears your pain his help is not.always evident I've been praying to God for most of my life I myself don't know what the lord has in store for me but I trust he.will help me and ease my suffering I will keep you in my prayers if you don't mind God bless you !
Sometimes I wonder at God's plan for me as well. I know I have to count my blessings cuz we always have. But I always seem to be left in pain anxiety and depression
I dont know why Slowlydyinginside, sometimes life can deal us a cruel hand, ive always thought i was sent here as a punishment for something id done from another life. Ive gone through so much since i was around 12 and im 60 now and still going through it. i did think id found happiness for the last 7yrs with my new partner, but a few days ago i found out she was having a fling with other man and now doesnt want anything to do with me, and i suffer from copedendence where any non communication sends me into orbit with my anxiety and depression, also have many underlying problems which include physical issues as my whole lot of discs in my spine have degenerated and i can barely walk. Also just been diagnosed with Centralised Myasthenia Gravis, which is a life threatening illness and only 15 in every 100,00 get it. But as much as ive got going on i always think someone somewhere is worse off, it doesnt help me to feel better but thinking of these poor people makes me wonder if i arent to bad off after all. Hope you feel better soon.
Thanks. I feel terrible about what your partner did. I hope that you can find another one. Maybe that was God saying that she wasn't perfect for you.
thank you very much Slowlydyinginside. I dont think after this im ever going be ready for another relationship, with so many underlying problems now and what the anxiety and depression this is causing i couldnt handle it again. I feel very close to wanting it all to end. Its the fact that i treated her so well and she just kept lying and treating me like rubbish then walking out has totally destroyed what bit of life i felt kept me living, and then i find out all what she has done and it has all the traits of a Narcissistic. I am struggling to type this as my hands are shaking so much and its not getting easier i feel myself dropping deeper. I do sincerely hope you dont give up and the feeling of despair lifts for you, i dont know how much family support you have i dont have any as all of mine have passed away, but it would help you to talk and share with your nearest and dearest, and still say a little prayer to God even though it feels hes turned his back on you. If you get stuck i will always talk to you and try to help you, i wont ask personal things, or anything to make you think im being over friendly, i just want to help as i know how much you must be going through. Please dont think ive got enough on my mind, i always keep a spare place to listen to anyone in despair. All my thoughts and deepest sincerest blessings are sent to you
You're too sweet. And I honestly don't care if you ask me personal questions. Just know that I know what you're going through, because my last boyfriend was cheating on me for a long time. I actually walked in on him legit making out with my sister! Yes you will get through it, and maybe find someone new. I'm not trying pressuring you or anything. We can help each other get through it.
my goodness Slowlydying , i dont know how id cope with walking in and catching her at it with someone else, first thing would be throw up probably, then who knows. I dont think in anyway you are pressurising me, i know you are only trying to help in my time of need. I find your replies really therapeutic, and hopefully we can both get each other through this awful time. I hope you are feeling a little better today, you never really actually say how you are feeling, you are too busy asking me how i am, and that is so so thoughtful. I know i dont know you but i hold you in very high esteem, and no im not to sweet lol, i am just me, plain old me how i am, no aires or graces, i spell how i talk and talk what i mean, no dressing things up, and definitely no lying, i do really have strong issues about liars, i cannot abhor them. so with me is what i am really like, but it was a very kind comment you put, and i would like to return that by saying you are to kind and sweet , that i just feel i really want to get to know you and help you get past your demons. i dont know if you can pm on here but i could drop you an email address if you would like to talk. If that seems to full on its not meant to be i promise, its just me trying to be kind and helpful. Please take care and stay safe . Your friend jon
Thanks. Yeah I'll give you mine through message. Your friend Jaislyn.
Thank you so much Jaislyn, i love your name, it is very unusual and very sweet. I will wait for your message and reply with mine on it. i have wrote you a message i dont know if you have seen it yet. best wishes your friend jon
Yeah, I saw it. I responded with it. I don't know if you saw it or not.
You are a blessed person for setting aside your own torment and trying to help others. God will bless you
Dear Jon,
I am very sorry about all your health problems and what happened with your partner! Wow! There is a lot of ungodliness in this life!
It hurts a lot when someone we trust and care about a lot betrays us! I have realized that God can provide peace and lots of love and hope and happiness. May He bless you a lot physically, mentally and spiritually!
I have suffered a lot and depression has been a part of my life for decades. And, like some other people, I don't understand either why God allows so much suffering in our lives and doesn't stop our misery and despair!
In any case, I think the best thing we can do in our lives is seek Him. It is wise to seek Him!
Great post what a great post. I do believe in God and was bought up in catholic schools so its not hard to understand what you mean. I do pray still but not as much as i should. I do still have faith even though there are lot of catastrophes in the world we live in.
May God have mercy on all of us and bless the whole world! We will always need Him.
Ogosh this is me also. I recently met a guy ive been talking to online for the last 8 months. We had a connection from the very first convo. Our first date was even better. Bly thing js we ended up sleeping together and now he s keeping away after a few texts. He suffers prsd and adhd. So i have no dea if it has to do with that and his hectic work schedule or if its something to do with me. The lacm of contact is killing me inside. I am depressed and anxious. I know my worth and im a good catch. I thought he did too. So why is this happening? That date couldnt have gone any better than it did. . So I guess im co dependent too
Hi Dreamer, im so sorry to hear of your ordeal. I do hope he is just tied up with work or just generally not feeling to well. But if he is or has used you it is bound to of affected you, as you say you are a good catch, but Narcs dont think so sadly. I know i treated my ex like a princess thinking we had the best romance in the world, or should i say i did. Then i found all the cracks showing. The final straw was she just kept away for 4/5 weeks saying she just needed time on her own. I was distraught and it was torture for me, and still is, especially as i have other underlying issues and she knows how bad it makes me but still wont come round, and i havent done one single thing wrong, just like you, you did nothing wrong, you fell for this man, and let your emotions let him get close to you, which is natural. Try not beat yourself up to much, and i hope the anxiety and feeling of loss passes and you are not codependent , it is so horrible to break the bond or to try should i say. please keep in touch and keep me unto date on how you are feeling Dreamer082021 . Please take care and stay safe and if you need to talk i will always reply . Sending my best wishes and hugs to you x
Thank you. What is worse is my anxiety causes me to fear that it was just a game. But I sense in my spirit it wasnt. Him having ptsd and adhd just makes it all the worse I am still trying to kearn all I can. He is a spiritual person and does alot to help people loves animals etc. Above all he loves Jesus. It hirts and it makes me.feel crazy inside but I try to battle thise moments of weakness. Thank you so much for your kindness. It's all in God's hands now.
I believe God answers our prayers 3 ways. Yes, No, and wait on His time. To me that is what depression is. Because we can’t cure it and have to wait for God to do the healing. We can share what we have learned to help others who suffer. Who can. better help others than someone who has been there. We give love and show we care and that is the hope(God’s light) to perservere. God haas promised to walk with us through the trial We don’t know the reason for our mental illness only God does. God loves us as He loves a child without mental illness. God loves us UNCONDITIONALLY!
I love this response. Thank you for sharing
Yeah...maybe you're right...
Hi friend, as a Christian I understand why you say that because I have felt that before. When I get that feeling I always turn to my Christian meditation app called "Abide" and do some meditation on His word. My dearest sister in law always reminds me of the story in the Bible of Paul asking God desperately to remove the thorn on his side and God doesn't. God sometimes doesn't remove our Earthly pains for a reason that only He knows. It's definitely annoying to say the least but I think in my case it's to get me to rely more on Him than myself. I also think that later in life I will learn to cope better with my anxiety and maybe help others that are dealing with it in such ways as I did. If you ever need someone to talk to or need prayers i'm just a message away. Good luck my friend🤗
Yeah. Good luck to you too
Thank you for sharing your concerns. I know that feeling of trying to undestand why some of us struggle with anxiety and depression and others don't. Why can I feel such despair and not even know why. However, I have learned to stop focusing on the why because there is no answer that in our human minds we can understand. You mentioned about asking Godwhy. As I have studied verses in the bible, I have come to the conclusion that there is so much that happens in our lives that is beyond our understanding. God allows for things to happen in our life to help us grow and become stronger. We may not see that at the time we are going through struggles, but He is always walking along side us through those struggles to make us stronger. There is two poems that I focus on when I am struggling along with this verse. I hope they bring you some hope as they do to me when I am in that deep dark pit.
Footprints in the Sand (bit.ly/3LI20bx)
The Difference (bit.ly/37jmatp)
Proverbs 3:5-6 (bit.ly/37rzg8c)
If you need someone to talk to that understands, please feel free to pm me. I am here for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Those of us who struggle can be a support and encouragement to each other because we understand the hardship of depression. Hugs and God Bless
Dear Jaislyn,
I am very sorry you feel so much despair!
In the book of Psalms in the Bible, you will find that David wrote a lot about painful things in his life.
This was a man who loved God a lot and he would beg God not to turn his face away from him. He would say: How long, God, will you allow your servant to suffer?
There were times in my life when I would experience intense pain inside my soul and I would become desperate for God's help and love. But my life wouldn't improve and I would resent God and would even lose my hope in Him.
Some of us would like answers about why there are so many bad things in this life, but I don't think we will ever get all the answers we want here on Earth.
What some Christians have told me is that we live in a fallen world. Adam and Eve sinned and that changed life a lot forever! Now, suffering is very common.
I believe that the best thing for us to do is to have a good relationship with God. Who else is going to help us? Who else is able to help us?
The people who are a blessing to us are being used by God. They're instruments of God. He is behind every good thing that happens on this Earth.
The Devil isn't good. He doesn't love anybody and there is nothing good in him.
Goodness only exists in God. I believe it is better to be close to Him.
I hope so much that you will feel much better soon and may God guide you and provide you help!
my church will tell me trials make us stronger and I believe in my church and won't change, but I don't exactly love their responses or attitudes towards certain things, so all I wanna say is you are not alone in this and I think someday you can look back on these days with an appreciation for what they have given you but that day is years away inside the bubble of pain so, for now, decide what you wanna teach the pain and let's keep fighting together (if that's ok with you that is otherwise I'll let you fight on your own and help when you want it)
Yeah, your right teen_anxiety.
I'm glad to know I am right but I would rather know that you understood or whether or not that helped so I can continue to be here for you.
I once read “we suffer so we can learn how not to suffer.”. To me it means, life has its times of suffering but we should know that suffering has important lessons for us.
Yeah, maybe when this is over I'll be looking back and thanking God for it.
How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you. Hugs
This week, fine...
That is good news. I pray you continue to feel fine. Hugs
I can't do this anymore...
I can't even fall asleep and stay there. I can't go through 1 day without crying.
Honestly sameee. I even get existential crizises. I'm just staying there being like "why does life work this way and ergo If it does what are the odds of me existing in this matress of despair? It doesn't make sence. If there's God, why are people so cruel? Why am i struggling so much? If there's no God, then is everything a cosmic game of dice in a cold unhuman Universe and we're alone and created all kind of absurd myths to make the cold cosmos seem human? " (damn, i should stop with the phylosophy. In books they should put warning signs like in ciggatrettes like" Thinking kills" 😅. I'm a nerd idiot, don't mind me). But the aim of this essays of absurdism of existence is you're totaly not alone in this. I get those thoughts too. Intrusive thoughts. So don't listen to them. And look having such thoughts means you're intelligent. Thinking kills but thinking is also a sign you're a smart, kind, thoughtful person and this is saving someone else who is saving someone else and the chains continues. Really rn i was in the same, i was think "why do i exist in a world like this? Why is the order of the world like that? If there's God, why did They make things this way? Why do humans hurt me? Okay, If i'm the problem, why am i here? If i'm just too weak, why am i here? I don't like the way this world works, nor the way humans work. Humans can't bear being matherial beings and thinking beings at the same time acording to me. My soul gets in love, his body does but soul not, and my soul suffers and everyone says "this is how men are" and i be there like "why?! This order is cruel. I don't know If nature or God did it, but i can't get an explaining in my head.". And now i'm seeing why spiritual people don't ask questions and don't dig deeper but damn i study these things and i will wander through hell just to draw maps and light the way. That's my job. Not the reason of my cursed existence tho. I'm thinking maybe the sence of existinh is existing itself. So just staying alive is the sence of life. It has no sence and all sence (just like my theory) at the same time. And we wander through the colective and personal uncounscious with all the mythological archetypes. Andddd maybe i should become a phylosopher instead of a psychologist because If i say this to someone they will look at me like "what the hell". But as Tolkien says "Not all who wander are lost". Don't be afraid of those thoughts, firstable you're not alone in having them, second they're intrusive thoughts and can't harm you untill you give in to them, third they show you're intelligent and thoughtful. Sorry for the essays of doctor mc psycho nerd but writing it out and thinking it out does help. People make it taboo. They say "How dare you talk like that" but hey let's talk about that. Let's get to the root. Let's wander for a while. At least admiting it helps. Writing out "This world sucks" helps. Screaming it helps. Discussing it with someone helps. Much better than cycling alone on 1 thought. Break this thought, go deeper, ask it questions. And then leave it, it's tired from me. See my existential dread is torturing me but i'm torturing it back 😅. When i was little i would say "grannny, a bug bites me" and she would say "bite it back". I now realise how absurd is this. Dale Carnegie said "thoughts are like bugs. Don't give in to the bugs". And i realise i have been collecting bugs and studying them, instead of just killing them like a normal person. But hey there're schoolars for bugs, i forgot their name but there are. And some bugs are both painful but needed like bees. Even the demon from that show The Good Place had an existential crizis. In the song of Falling in reverse, there it is. In the song of Gidle Villain dies, there it is. It's a common topic. And honestly idk whether i'm smart or crazy but sorry for sounding like a craxkhead, just broke my heart yesterday and i was through the same. But hey writing helped. Hope it helps you too honey and message me If you need me. I'm with you, even though i'm a bit insane myself 😅❤️
Yeah...I already message you and you message me. And wow, you can really type LONG paragraphs.
Please read my post from earlier today. I hope you will. I think it could help...... if You want it to. But you have to Want to help yourself, or nothing will work.🙇♀️
Okay? I haven't been able to change my name because I haven't been on
It's time to change it. You are NO LONGER "Slowly Dying Inside". That is BEHIND you now. Please let us know your new, positive name. I believe in You! 💜
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