Panic attack and depression

[Skjones]

Everything was going great for the last 2 months but now I'm freaking out and down as he'll. It started with me reheating food in a Togo box for my wife and all the sudden she got really annoyed and just went on a cleaning rampage,I kept asking what was wrong and she said that she feels like we can't have nice things because everything is always filthy ... which it's not she. was mad that I didn't use a plate to reheat, I didn't want to dirty a dish but she just criticizes everything I do when it come to cleaning the house I do it her way and it's still not good enough which makes me feel like crap. why should I bother doing anything at all if it's not good enough and she isn't even grateful that I've been doing the house work I'm totally down and freaking out I can hardly breathe I feel worthless. I found it funny that she's says we can't have nice thing cause of me but the nicer things we have she doesn't care that she ruined a controller with ice cream or that our grandson she allows to drive metal toy cars on our TV we saved for. He can do what he wants to my stuff but hers no those are Bice things even though they cost the same. I don't know what to do I'm hiding from her in bed be abuse I'm getting angry as well and don't want to fight.

[Skjones]

And on top of it she uses my anxiety and depression and ocd as an excuse for not talking things out rationally I'm fine having a conversation but when you come at me aggressively that's when it hits my brain buttons

[hypercat54 in reply to Skjones]

Not having a go or anything but I am just wondering why you seem to think she should be grateful to you for doing the housework? Do you consider this is her job?

[Skjones in reply to hypercat54]

No not at all in fact I do it all so she doesn't have to and can relax on her days off I think what I meant to say is happy and appreciative if that makes sense she never says thank you or anything I do it for her so she doesn't have to it would be nice to be shown some appreciation instead of just ragging on my work

[AdamFCastillo31]

Well, this might be because she is not happy obviously something really bothering her, try to know about that. Secondly, you should also focus on your depression/ anxiety which can affect your relationship on another level. I am not blaming you but it can be possible that due to your depression she is not enjoying her time. so I think this could be the reason now you have to find it and resolve this and everything will be fine.