Hi, I suffer from bad monophobia (fear of being alone) . Anxiety and depression. Could use some help.

[Pug_Power]

The fear of being alone causes me great distress, It increases my anxiety and depression too. I dont do well alone, I miss the face to face conversation and not having someone here to live with and talk to . Anyone else suffer with this and have coping suggestions. At times I feel like I'm climbing the walls...

[1947treble]

I would just recommend getting interested in solo activities like artwork or some kind of craft to get your attention off the fear. I used to really struggle with being alone and I poured myself into activities that occupy my mind. I also put on something for noise. I watch a lot of instructional art videos and it can feel like I'm one on one with someone working on a project. A lot of my anxiety came from not knowing what to do by myself so it's helpful to have multiple hobbies to choose from. With depression and anxiety I make sure to read, watch, do positive things and concern myself with media and influences that are uplifting or put me in a better headspace. I even make little videos on my laptop of either a video journal or discussing something I read or came across that inspired me, to look back on when I'm not feeling inspired. I color, paint, and make collages, look up things like gratitude tips or self acceptance. I take notes and use them for future videos or posts on here or similar sites. I don't know if any of those interest you but there are countless options for beneficial uses of solo time. Hopefully something in there helps.

[BPresent]

I’ve honestly never heard of monophobia but I know I don’t prefer to be alone & it seems like unless I have someone to go with, I don’t go do anything like grocery shopping, running errands, going to appointments, etc. I’ll put things off for weeks, sometimes months until someone finally offers to go with me & then I’ll get a ton of stuff done all at one time. I’ll sit here hungry, knowing I could get in the car & go get something to eat. It just feels like I need someone to encourage me or go with me & it’s not like running to McDonald’s or even the grocery store is scary. Plus, where I live I could be at 4 or 5 different fast food places or 3 or 4 grocery stores within 5 minutes so I could be there & back in less than 10 minutes. I’m definitely need to do some research on this. Thank you for posting about your situation & I hope you find some advise on here that helps. I have found great advise but I’m having trouble putting it into practice. It’s easy to read “just pick up a hobby, go for a walk, exercise, etc” but to put that into practice is what’s hard. Best of hope for you.

[Pug_Power in reply to BPresent]

Thank you for the response. Monophobia has many different variations. Quite a bit of information on the web about but of course not a lot of suggestions how to combat it. I will add like yourself, I dont like to do anything alone either and when I'm alone not around people it can cause me panic attacks...living alone doesn't help either.