Self Help

[Baba101]

I gave up on psychologists and psychiatrists a while back. I realized to them I was just an income. I'm a complicated man with complicated issues. And I don't blame them they have bills to pay. So, I have been trying to help myself. I know all these negative thoughts are from within. I know that brain activity is important but we should be able to be in charge of our own thoughts. I try to stay healthy, eat vitamins, be active, and most importantly try to be self-aware.

What do you guys do to control the chain of thoughts? What do you do to help yourself?

[Agora1]

Hi Baba101, you are absolutely right in that we can only get so much fromour therapist and then it is up to us to make the necessary changes in going forward.

The professionals can put us back on the right path by guiding us but they can't solve

the issues we carry if we don't change.

I try to keep an upbeat positive attitude everyday. Oh there are times that life

seems to give me more than I can handle but then I turn to my Meditation and Breathing.

I'm very into keeping my mind and body in a positive, peaceful state of mind.

When there is a problem, I think about the root of the issue and see if it is something

I can change, if not I accept it for what it is and work to keep myself together. I never

give up on myself. I believe in myself and use everything I've learned over the years

to keep me uplifted. We learn from our experiences in life. When in trouble, go back

to their experiences and teachings and the answer is usually clearer than we think.

I go to sleep every night listening to Affirmation/Self Hypnosis. It leaves a positive

thought in my subconscious mind before falling into a deep REM sleep.

Upon awakening in the morning, once again I listen to the same tape to start my

day with a smile and a shout "I'm Back" lol You've got this my friend xx

[Baba101 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Agora1, this is very helpful.

[Midori]

What kind of bad thoughts do you have?

After my husband died leaving me with two very small children, I had all the funeral arranging and his family to deal with, and they were ( let us say), less than kind. It took more than a year to get his affairs in order.

I too found that therapists were not of the best, and took my care into my own hands.

My thoughts were of incompetence, and after a while I became aware that they were exactly the things my husband used to say to me, (He was an abusive and violent man), so one day, when I had had enough I raged and screamed, swore and cussed him out of my head. I told him to never come back.

Of course I had to do it again several times, when my confidence took a hit, but I found it worked. Getting angry worked for me, maybe it will work for you.

Now I am unashamadly ME!

He's been gone from my head for nearly 20 years now.

Cheers, Midori

[designguy]

Hello Baba, I think one of the things that has helped me the most is learning to never believe my anxious thoughts, no matter what. Understanding that their misguided role was to protect me also helped. Being willing to delve into our shadow side and investigate them takes courage and awareness but allows us to make friends with our mind which is what enables us to be whole. Learning and practicing simple mindfulness is very helpful for being able to observe and detach from our thoughts and just observe them and realize they are just thoughts with no power until we attach power to them. Also getting in touch with our emotions and being willing to process them is very helpful. I had a lot of repressed anger and started going outside with a sledge hammer and eye protection and beating on large rocks. I would put my focus on whomever or whatever I was angry about on the rocks, pound away and release the anger - sure did feel good.