Parents

[Quamm]

I know i've already had a rant on this but it just hit me hard again and I can't stand my parent. When i say my sibling is the star child i mean it. For the past 2-3 weeks its been about him and its driving me insane. I'm not the kid who craves affection and attention but whats been happening has really been ticking me off and my partner sees it as well. So before me and my parent moved out of our old house cause of his significant other I was always doing my chores, cleaning up after myself and being a responsible child. After i heard the news that me and my parent were moving out because of a breakup i realized ok looks like more chores and new home, easy. Ever since we moved in i have been doing my side of the chores and even helped with my parents side. I made sure apartment was clean and tidy before and after id make a mess. For the past two weeks my sibling has been getting all the attention and treats. Im in college and working and i've spent mostly all my money on rent and apartment stuff to keep us stable. For past while my sibling has been getting movie dates with my parent, surprised treats like candies and chocolates, and money, (also has ps5 to himself even though i want to watch my shows on Netflix) I recently asked my dad to borrow a short amount of money (like literally $15) and he just asked why and that he's broke but continuously surprised my sibling. He also always conversates with my sibling about jokes and funny stuff but when it comes to me he just asks if i can wash dishes or do like a chore, doesn't even say he's proud over my hard work. It's really starting to affect me. He also miss communicates with me during an event and when an event occurs he gets upset i didn't "listen" to him. Anyways thats my rant

[hypercat54]

I presume you are at least 18 and it is about time you realised you are legally an adult and have choices over where you live and how you live your life. So I would be working to get your independence and looking forward to that rather then berating your parents.

I am sorry if this is harsh but everyone has to grow up and this is what an adult would do. Start practising this and try and look forward to living the life you want instead of concentrating on how your parents behave.

[Quamm in reply to hypercat54]

I wouldn't say its harsh, and yes ive bee working and starting my independence for the last month now. Thank god its getting me somewhere.

[hypercat54 in reply to Quamm]

I am glad you have taken it the way I intended. You will get there so concentrate on achieving your independence asap. Good on you.

[Quamm in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you and of course, everyone has reasoning behind there words of advice. no judgement/ rude comments back intended

[hypercat54 in reply to Quamm]

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[hypercat54]

Oh and I get where you are coming from as it was the same in my family and no it's right or fair, but then life often isn't.

[Silvia123456789]

Have you tried talking to your parent about these perceived injustices and the way your sibling is treated differently? Perhaps the parent isn't even aware they are behaving this way and that it is affecting you.I do agree with hypercat54 that you are responsible for creating your own happy and healthy environment, but at the same time I recognize that issues with our original families have a huge impact on us and must be dealt with - which in some cases might mean you have to accept some things are not fair and some people will not treat us the way we would like. But in order to deal with such issues you need to get as much clarity as possible.

[Quamm in reply to Silvia123456789]

I actually managed to tell him how i feel, though he didn't take it the way i intended so i am staying away from home for a while

[Sam1109]

If you think you're right to feel this way, confront them. Parents can think you're strong enough to not need babying and your sibling needs it. I've seen this happen a lot. Lot of parents do it. You need to point it out to them that you're doing more than your share and it doesn't seem to be enough. And you need attention and appreciation. If your parents don't understand, see if you can move out and live separately. Then they will find out the hard way what you've been doing for them. This is not about punishing your parents if they need you. But if they don't realize it even when you talk to them openly, you might have to let them find it out the hard way.

[Quamm in reply to Sam1109]

Exactly, i opened up with my partners help finally but my parent didn't take it the way i would've thought sadly so I'm just staying away from home for a while

[DIsneyQueen]

It sounds as if you have a lot of stress in your life. But it also sounds as if you are strong and at least outwardly handling it. Stay strong and try to remove yourself from the situation with your dad and sibling if you can. Focus on school and yourself

[Quamm in reply to DIsneyQueen]

Thank you, so far I have been. Focused on school and working and other then that being around someone who treats me better.