Pre-electronic society, ordinary life, green fields, no flashy cars, no laptops, peaceful existence, no filling in enormous small print housing insurance forms, in other words, pre 21st society and some values? less grey hairs! The good old days! When you could.... Then I wake up! 21st century chaos?
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Ever wish you could turn to a pre button pushing society, actually see people in places, talk to them, no mobile phones, etc, AAH???
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Absolutely!I still prefer to see people rather that text, e mail , even phone, whether it's friends, family, business or medical. Even with a phone call these days it's almost impossible to get to speak to a person rather than an automated answer system. Having said that, I can understand that it can be useful for people who live a long way from family.
Ah those were the days, I can’t help but think that though all this technology is good in its place to keep In touch with everyone, the other side is everythings online, weve got one bank left in our town now, it’s taken over everybody’s life, it’s ok for the young ones as they don’t know anything different but for us oldies it can be so frustrating, though I must admit I wouldn’t be without my iPad 👍. Don’t get me started on Doctors appointments 😳
I agree there are a lot of positives of technology, in many areas of our lives, but I still prefer to communicate in person , or at least on the phone, as much as I can. I tried using video calling last weekend- not much of a success. I couldn't get the hang of it at all😁I resisted online banking for a long time, but gave in during the first lockdown. I still don't feel 100% happy with it though.
in reply to MadBunny
I remember back in 2020 just after everything had shut down I got asked to do a job interview on zoom and I had panicked as I had never done that on video before so I decided to give it a go and did my best!
Nowadays I am a lot better at them through practice!
We are fine here and I have had an afternoon in the kitchen making mashed Swedes and mashed parsnip and swede and mashed parsnip to be used for future meals but don't tell Dylan as I know he gets envious over our veg supply!
MadBunny in reply to
I think I'm going to need a lot of practice at video calls😁Never tried Dyl on swede. He likes dried parsnip but not fresh. He's having some coriander at the moment.
in reply to MadBunny
Dylan is a very spoilt rabbit getting coriander!
Lunch today myself and my sister in law had a parsnip, apple and carrot soup that I had made myself which we both enjoyed.
Tomorrow I am going out to Newport with my mate and having lunch at a French bistro.
MadBunny in reply to
The soup sounds delicious. Have a lovely time tomorrow. It's so good to get out and about with friends again.
in reply to MadBunny
Making home made ready meals that I did during the pandemic is one of the good things from it that is here to stay.
Yesterday was a quiet day after having had hectic days on Tuesday and wednesday and I stayed in my pyjamas until 12noon and watched coronation st from 1992 the year when I was 16 in the October.
MadBunny in reply to
Yes me too with the meals. I always watch the old Coronation St - I prefer it to the current ones. I love the old characters like Jack and Vera.
Midori in reply to
I'm one of those people who thinks Coriander tastes like soap!
Just today, my sister posted the following on another (not HU ) forum about living in the East End of London in the late fifties, and it was a good time.🤗
Our house was an old traditional two up, two down with a scullery and an outside toilet. Mum, Dad, my older sister, brother, me, a dog, cats and a budgie. When we were little there was me and my sister in a double bed and my brother in a single in the same room. Our tin bath was outside and mum brought it into the kitchen in front of the fire when it was bath time. Dad always sat at the kitchen table reading his paper or his books. I would sit on the scullery step while my mum sewed on her machine doing her outwork for a few bob and she would tell me stories or we would do nursery rhymes. On the tv we would watch 'Watch with Mother every day' The tv had the box at the back that you put the money in the slot to watch it. Mum had a dark brown old leather hard padded sofa that someone must have left her as she grew up in the house with her parents before us. We would never have had the money for a leather sofa. She always said I don't care how much noise or mess you make as long as you are playing nice and not fighting. Me and my brother would sit on that sofa and play that game where you draw a picture to describe a song and the other one had to guess it. We drew on the sofa with chalk and mum gave us a wet cloth to wipe it off. It always looked as good as new at the end of the game. My brother rolled the rug up and chalked battlegrounds on the floor for his toy soldiers as well and then wiped it all off. When we went to bed at night mum and day would kiss us and say "goodnight, God bless" and we would also say "goodnight Jerry" to the budgie and he would say "goodnight God bless". Jerry would also entertain us kids singing his party piece 'half a pound of tuppeny rice, half a pound of treacle, that's the way the money goes, pop goes the weasel' and with that he would jump of the perch ruffle all his feathers up and drop on the floor of the cage, much to our delight. On Christmas morning we never had much but we were always happy and always got a special present that we had wanted. Dad never stayed late at the pub on Christmas Day and when he got home we had the best Christmas dinner and then we played games for the rest of the day. Monopoly, Cluedo, cards we had the best time and the undivided attention of both our parents at the same time. We never doubted for a single moment how much we were loved. Happy Happy Days. Need to mention too that when my sister started work after a few pay packets she bought us our first record player. Fantastic but that caused a few fights between me and my brother - but that is a story for another time.
Sums it up beautifully🤗😘
I love these bits -
"She always said I don't care how much noise or mess you make as long as you are playing nice and not fighting."
"the undivided attention of both our parents at the same time. We never doubted for a single moment how much we were loved"
Yes , we may have been poor in money, but we were rich in love 🤗
Me and my brothers too. And like you we made our own entertainment and games. Love the budgie 😁🤗
in reply to Bazzak
When I was growing up we were poor in love and rich in money but my parents were extremely selfish over things.
What I decided to do is in the rare event that I really really have nothing better to do then I will get in contact!
We reap what we sow in life!
I wish my dad was like that …. 😞
Wonderful post, also sums up my childhood, so many happy memories of being loved , not much money but love in abundance, happy days ❤️
Yes happy days, hope you are well, and behaving 🤗❤️
Always lol, 🤪. after reading so many stories of neglected and abusive childhoods on here, I count my blessings for having had such wonderful parents and extended family., sadly now mostly gone
Me too. They were always there for us- even if I didn't always appreciate it in my teens 🤗😁
I posted this on PWB months ago, but I think it sums up how it was in the UK year's ago 🤗
you understand this? Back in the days of tanners and bobs,
When Mothers had patience and Fathers had jobs.
When football team families wore hand me down shoes,
And T.V gave only two channels to choose.
Back in the days of three penny bits,
when schools employed nurses to search for your nits.
When snowballs were harmless; ice slides were permitted
and all of your jumpers were warm and hand knitted.
Back in the days of hot ginger beers,
when children remained so for more than six years.
When children respected what older folks said,
and pot was a thing you kept under your bed.
Back in the days of Listen with Mother,
when neighbours were friendly and talked to each other.
When cars were so rare you could play in the street.
When Doctors made house calls and Police walked the beat.
Back in the days of Milligan's Goons,
when butter was butter and songs all had tunes.
It was dumplings for dinner and trifle for tea,
and your annual break was a day by the sea.
Back in the days of Dixon's Dock Green,
Crackerjack pens and Lyons ice cream.
When children could freely wear National Health glasses,
and teachers all stood at the FRONT of their classes.
Back in the days of rocking and reeling,
when mobiles were things that you hung from the ceiling. When woodwork and pottery got taught in schools,
and everyone dreamed of a win on the pools.
Back in the days when I was a lad,
I can't help but smile for the fun that I had.
Hopscotch and roller skates; snowballs to lob.
Back in the days of tanners and bobs.
Xx
Yes now I'm the older generation, last of my parents generation died three months ago!
I am almost. There's just one aunt, my mum's sister left now. Funny, when you're young, you can't imagine a time when that will happen.
That is brilliant Bazzak, having moved from Crystal Palace, south London in 1955, to near Belfast, where your's truly was born in 1956, that sums it up, many similar memories👍😘😂
I Have just come back from Crystal Palace after dropping off my grandson to his mum, who lives near the station, 🤗 spent a lot of time in Crystal Palace park 😁
in reply to Bazzak
When I was growing up it was cassette tapes that were in fashion and only rich people had CDs.
How have you been and how's your grandson and the kitties?
Baby is well and is 18 in April!
Bazzak in reply to
Grandson is fine, still taking him to school and picking him up, but now he's conned me in to carrying him on my shoulders 🙄🤗, the cats are all well and the matriarch, Tilly, is sixteen nowXx
What a wonderful read. My childhood was very similar. One year I asked for a goldfish in a little tank. I saw this present under the tree and was so excited. When I carefully tore the paper off I found an old second hand set of Oldham encyclopaedias!
I remember that sort of time, but looking back, for me it wasn't a regular upbringing. At Christmas we would all go to my aunt and uncle's house, there were six of us altogether, my parents, my aunt and Uncle and my grandma; and I was the only child!
I didn't regard it as anything odd, I didn't know any different.
The phone was down the road, cost 2d, no dial, all operator connection, press button A to talk, and if you didn't get through press button B to get your 2d back! A big button to press for the Emergency number (pre-999!)
My father and uncle were brothers and my mother and aunt were sisters, go figure! Not long after the war there was still rationing, and it was one way to get a decent spread with all the ration coupons. Making your own paper chains to hang up was the order of the day and you could get packs of ready cut strips glued at one end for 3d!
It was a two up, two down, and the loo was down the garden! Tin bath in front of the dining room fire!
Cheers, midori
When i see this post i think of my dad because he’s so stuck on the computer i would wish everyday that he would stop using it . Technology is what is making me and my dad have a bad relationship . He doesn’t spend time with us or take care of our brother who has special needs . I think that technology has taken over my dads life and is preventing my dad from having family time …. It’s hard to deal with i feel like my dad thinks that this evil thing is more important than the good things in life like family .
It's interesting to get a younger persons view on this Hiba. I'm sorry to hear it's affecting your family relationships 💕
Losing the human touch? Too encroached with the technological taste, the utter 'convenience' of it, life beyond the keyboard? Unfortunately this pandemic has heightened their use, and the mental effect it has on the ordinary human being.
It’s really sad though like how technology can take over peoples lives and in turn ruin relationships or family’s .
Most of the time they are not even aware of it, as you said people should be aware of it, a very big chance due indirectly to isolation from this pandemic and the increase of technology that there is going to be a substantial increase of mental 'damage' to the user and their families🥴🥴🥴
Yes this is one of the downsides of the internet , it’s so sad
It really is i wish there was more awareness about how technology can harm family’s .
Hi Hiba, In normal times dads would go out to work and you wouldn't see them until they got home, some time after six usually. Family wouldn't know how he spent his day, but the point is that he's got to work to provide for the family, wherever that work is. My father worked some distance away and I hardly ever saw him. He didn't come to school events that I was taking part in because he didn't come home in time. My mum was cross about it but I was used to it.
I once had a husband who tried to make me feel guilty for doing a job I loved (the hours were short). It's not a nice feeling. Why not ask him what he's doing? Perhaps it's something big that he has to set up and once set up, he may be able to take time off. What time does he come off the computer?
My dad works at home he gets off of the computer until 1 or 2 am
That's not good for him or his family. Does he get up late because of his late nights? If he never comes off the computer, then in effect, you haven't got a dad.
You could keep nagging him or you could put it to him (in writing perhaps) that he is losing his family and ask him if that is what he wants, because you are going to make a life for yourself without him. These are only suggestions; it's up to you but if he never responds, you will just have to accept a fatherless life until he comes to his senses.
He never comes off of it unless it’s breakfast dinner or lunch . He wakes up at 9:00 and the first thing he does is go on the computer and stay there until my mom puts something on the plate for him . I am afraid to tell him again or even write a letter. He would be very angry and a fight would start with him and my mom. Blaming my mom for everything .
In this case, you will have to accept that you only see him for meals. It is good that he is working from home because that wouldn't happen if he went out to work. I would leave it to your mum, because she is playing the role of a servant to him at the moment. Talk to her instead; it might make you feel better, but you can't really interfere in their relationship. Help your mum in the home as much as you can and develop a good relationship with her - she must be suffering from his "absence" too and could probably do with a friend. I am sure you could be a good friend. 🤗❤️
Thanks for the advice it’s much appreciated ❤️ I will talk to my mom about it
Oh I know how you feel exactly. When is it going to stop. When we’re robots and we can do things the laziest way possible with the fewest necessary steps.
Heads in glass cases?🙄
Not really. I have gotten in touch and met in person with friends I grew up with. Never would have happened. I also met a cousin who lives in the same city that way. If I decided to live in a more isolated place the cell phone would be invaluable. It is essential if you go into the wilderness.
Yes but we are talking about the times when you were a twinkle in your dad's eye, not now .
My dad is why I need this forum! He spent his time at work and when he wasn't being verbally abusive he was holed up in his office building a computer from scratch. This was pre-apple II. I spend more time outside now than at any other time in my life. I enjoy it more now too. So no don't want to go back.
in reply to Blueruth
Sounds like what happened to me as well as when my father wasn't being verbally abusive taking swipes and disguising them as jokes he would hide behind his job as well.
Blueruth in reply to
He stopped talking to me like a human at age 7. In his last couple of years he got nicer but not enough to even acknowledge it. My mother finally addressed it last month... now that he is gone.
I can't imagine a paper checkbook registry or a calendar either.
we live in the woods year round ....yep..usually only visitors are mean raccoons, birds, squareels... and hope drug pushers dont want ur area to set up shop......no grid no nothing pretty much grw up that way near montana....outhouse and no power, no phone...one dirt road.....15 miles to nearest phone.....but....old long lost logging camps and timeless burned out scutures of trees of old old forest fires.....long healed over.....huge stumps with notches where the loggers of the 1800 put their stands and cut the trees....all by hand....echos of the past......or wilderness areas........a step back in time ........money poor ex perience rich ...very privaledged.....exploring prestine areas alone ..no grown ups age 14 15......verryyyyy lucky. unreal meadows........sit and wait to earn the trust of the deer.....5000 acres.....one dirt road.......(visitor to a mans ranch lands for a month for 15 years. ......unreal today. v v lucky
Adlon57 in reply to
You are free of technology taunters, a paradise in my eyes, lucky man!
in reply to Adlon57
yes those days....incredibly lucky incredibly lucky due to the generosuty of the ranch owner....unreal experiences as uyoung man.....yes.....now i ave been in east coast forests.....hard woods....veru very different but great artist paradise and tree lover nature lover....all true....very very lucky
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incredible experiences exploring with my old campaingne horse mr ugly (to everyone else...to me....he was the old time land rover.......priceless rugged totally dependable increcble.........would trade him for all teh money in the world....only old time brits and
SAS would get that.....i want ugly and rugged.....Land Rover....
I would like to go out more but I have a learning disability and my mum will not like if I am going alone in town or outside by self . I always had my mum on no matter what I am doing if she is always there with me . I am getting very annoyed about and yes she also restricted my mainstream dating site like tinder and bumblem . now less change to find a denoct guy . I think my mum does on purpose . I said to her i don't see of point of using the disabled dating sites since they alos has lots creaps .
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hear u...and sure u know this...sure u see both sides.....god forbid anyting happen to u....u cant unring the bell....get both sides.....wish there wre safe places for clubs and wahtever like the old time social dances taht were carefully sdreeened and safe.....feel for u
Thought you might like this 😁
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I had one until I moved 2 years ago!
We had a set of books called Junior Encyclopedia when I was growing up. I think mum bought them from a door to door salesman ( now there's another bit of history 🤗) I used to read them avidly! I really regret that they were given away.
I have a set of Chambers Encyopaedia [sic] 1862 to refer to? History nerd?🙄😆😆
in reply to MadBunny
used to read them all the time...im such a square (fine with me lol... puts my horses to sleep tho....zzzzz)
Every day I wish ... especially for the kids growing up in the fantasy world the internet grooms them for... living an unreal, detached life loosing its empathy and compassion because it's life only on a two-dimensional screen that you can just turn off from.
Sometimes I do wish for this. All the news is making me more anxious. The availability of it all. I miss just waking up on a Saturday heading to my dance class, walking around the mall, having dinner at my grandmas house, watch a good game of football, riding my bike! The good old days!!! Hang in there. Take breaks. Take deep breaths. It’s ok to disconnect and recharge. Like a good battery we need a recharge too! 🙏❤️
I love your Dream! I refuse to take my smartphone out when I go, because I detest the demands on my attention!
I would happily go back to when there was a phone box on every corner, and you didn't have to carry one with you.
I love being able to actually escape the electronic rat race! I prefer the quieter pursuits, like walking, reading, wildlife, countryside.
Cheers, Midori
A bit of privacy now and then, a walk around the 'block' in good weather, not seeing people swipe their phones, funny beeps from that 'thing' in your pocket, actually see a bird twittering in next door's garden, quiet roads as no cars would normally try to 'burn' them up. that sort of thing Midori ?
Definitely.. I love everyone here.. It would be awesome to see irl.. In real life 😁.
We are living in a generation for the first time, guided by technology made by man for man, no gap for nature, you HAVE to live to technology, it says so in it's various rules books, gradually making no options otherwise! A twilight zone as you say!
someone pass the mike to this person
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speaking of lucky -- visited the imperial war museum in london 5x when i was in kent at 17.....man learned soooooo much from the brits....often told im full of it but not to us.....we should have rebult our ally first after the war...big mistake
Sorry Cece321, as you can see I don't like technology, I can get wee bit angry at it sometimes, [we all do at some time?] the only thing I see which gets plus points is the mobile phone for communication.
What about a TV which automatically turns the volume off and on when adverts appear? Absolute silence you slip out to the kitchen for a quick snack, or sneak up to the loo for a quick 'leak'? Absolute Heaven!🤗🤗🙃👏👏👏👏😆😆
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