Dealing with the death of a loved one

[Strongest123]

Hello everyone on here. I’ve been really struggling with the passing of my brother. Been crying so much lately. How can one overcome this grief while struggling with depression? SAMSON

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. The small comfort I can try to offer is that losing someone is never easy, but if you surround yourself with others and share your pain you can receive comfort in kind and know you aren’t alone. I also suffered a recent loss, though it wasn’t a human family member, it still hit hard and drugged up feelings of prior losses. I have come to the realization that I have to believe there is something after and that we will see the ones we love again. In the meantime we have to ensure that we don’t overlook the here and now. I know the pain is so overwhelming sometimes you just want to make it go away, but think about the ones left behind. Make the most of every day with the ones you love and believe that we are never truly alone and never truly lose loved ones if we keep them in our hearts.

[Hidden]

Hi. I'm so sorry for your loss. I am grieving the loss of my mom. It is not an easy journey by far, and having depression on top of it doesn't help. My advice would be to give yourself permission to go through all your emotions. Talking about it helps too. Grieving is a process, so talk about it as often as you need to in order to process things.

I've been told that, while we never stop grieving, it does "get easier" with time. I am starting to accept my mom's passing, but it's taken 6 months.

Are you part of a grief support group?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

If there is such a group could you please direct me as well. I feel bad because the loss I suffered was a pet but since my wife and I don’t have kids she was family. It has also brought up the pain of previous losses and a paralyzing fear of loss. Any help would be appreciated. I would also like to help others. Thank you.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Does where you live have any groups?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Unfortunately no. I live in West Virginia. I know that the National Alliance on Mental Illness is trying to establish in the center of the State, but don’t have anything yet. I have reached out to see if I could assist them in that. There are plenty of groups for substance use disorder treatment but very few, if any, for mental health wellness.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yeah, I hear you. It's the same here in Europe. I think it's neat that you offered to help with that! Way to go!👍

[Strongest123 in reply to Hidden]

My brother had a dog growing up. His name was Rex, my brother adored that dog. So did I. When he died we all suffered. SAMSON

[Strongest123 in reply to Hidden]

Hello, thank you. I don’t even know how to find a group. I’m gonna go online and see if I can find one. SAMSON

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry for your fear. Know you aren’t alone!

[Strongest123]

Your words helped me tremendously. Thank you. SAMSON

[Hidden]

It takes time and being really gentle with yourself. I’m so sorry you have lost your brother. It’s so very hard.

[Midori]

Grief is not something to be rushed, I know there are people who say there are 5 stages to grief, but I take it with a grain of salt, because in my experience there is no set time or set stages, they merge into one another sometimes without us realising, and as you are already depressed it adds extra pressure.

Let yourself go with the flow; if you want to cry, or rage, do it, it is part of the healing process. Don't let anyone tell you it's time to get over it; If it were only that easy.

Be gentle with yourself, it will ease in time.

Cheers, Midori

[Strongest123]

Thank you Luna_Child. It’s hard to think that he’s not calling or texting me anymore. I would here from him almost every day. He would send me funny pics and videos from time to time. Just knowing that alone is ripping me apart. We are 3 siblings, my brother, sister and I. My sister lives in California and she’s not flying in. I live in New Jersey and so did my brother. My sister doesn’t want to cause she’s not vaccinated and she doesn’t want to be held back due to some mandates. As I type I feel like crying so I’ve got to go. I’m sorry. SAMSON

[Strongest123]

Thank you. I’ve got an appointment with my therapist on Thursday which is great. He’s got a way of unraveling the thoughts in my mind that I can’t seem to straighten out. Luna_child, I’m a 6ft 280 pound weightlifter that carries his heart on his sleeve. I can definitely cry many tears. I can definitely tell you that words can’t describe the pain I feel. SAMSON

[Bettikins]

Dear Strongest.. do surround yourself with people who really care about you, who understand what youvare going through. Be very kind and gentle with yourself. give yourself permission to grieve this tremendous loss and remember that it will take time. Remember the good times you shared with your brother. He would want that. Sending you caring hugs.

[Agora1]

Dear Strongest123, my heart feels your pain and I am truly sorry for your loss.Only time can heal the pain. While you grieve, I have 3 helpful videos that will

help guide you to caring peaceful spot within you.

These are all on YouTube...

"Guided Mindfulness Meditation in Suffering & Grief" by Mindful Peace

"Guided Meditation on Grief for Loss of a loved one" by Unlock Your Life

and finally, to help you with sleep

"Reconciling Grief, Loss & Sadness/Guided Meditation & Sleep Hypnosis"

by Michelle's Sanctuary

May your brother RIP and may you find strength within these meditations xx

[Strongest123]

Hi Luna_child, how are you? Just wanted to reach out. Got checked for Covid, and came out positive so I’ve not been able to see my little girl. Been struggling Luna_Child, but I’m trying, I guess. I’m trying to stay away from people so as not to get anyone sick. My neighbor who’s a great guy came by this morning to see how I was doing. He knows I’m sick with Covid but he came inside to see how I was. He’s become a good friend. SAMSON

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